Quieter than a mouse

I can't enjoy my apartment because I am overly paranoid about making noise. My neighbours watch movies, play music, etc regularly. I just can't do the same, I don't know what's wrong with me. The thought of them hearing my movies or music is too much. I don't want to bother anyone, but also I don't want them to know what music I like. I tiptoe around even though they are stompers, above and below. I realize this makes no sense, I am basically the quietest neighbour possible, but I still feel like I am bothering people. I don't know what's wrong with me, I pay a fortune for an apartment that I can't even enjoy.


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Apr 17, 2021 at 2:45pm

can relate

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Apr 17, 2021 at 2:57pm

... keep it quiet after 10pm, everything else is fine.

Like, sometimes you need to listen to Aoxomoxoa at full volume, itis good for the soul. And then you stare at the cover and wonder how to read it..does it say "Grateful Dead" or "We Ate The Acid"?

Have you been

Apr 17, 2021 at 3:07pm

In other situations where you’ve had to make yourself smaller and quieter for the sake of other people as a survival strategy?

Wondering if there’s some carryover from a previous experience that may be at play here.

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Apr 17, 2021 at 4:47pm


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Go for it

Apr 17, 2021 at 6:25pm

I’m a quiet person myself, so I get it. I watch tv with with volume low and with subtitles, because I just find a lot of noise challenging.

At times I can hear my neighbours but seriously, I think most half decently built places are more soundproof than we think, and anyone should be able to play music and tv at a volume that’s enjoyable enough for them in their unit without it disturbing others.

Go for it, if you’re being mindful from the get go, I doubt your neighbours will notice the sound at all. At the least, I think most expect some sort of quiet hum in apartment buildings.

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Did you grow up in a house?

Apr 17, 2021 at 7:47pm

I think people that grow up in houses (especially ones that are only one floor) rather than growing up in apartments are often the most quiet. After spending so much time in a house you just become more aware and sensitive to the noise levels from yourself and others in an apartment that you just never really grow completely accustomed to.

Tone deaf

Apr 17, 2021 at 7:53pm

Is that why you're crying down there all the time? Who cares, make more noise. They sound like terrible neighbours, you should find out what they hate and do more of that.

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They say....

Apr 17, 2021 at 7:55pm

it's the quiet ones you really should watch out for....

You're not the problem

Apr 17, 2021 at 10:50pm

You sound like a dream neighbour. I wish you lived above me. You are considerate and self-aware. If everyone had even a fraction of your conscientiousness, the city would be a much more pleasant place to live.

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Apr 17, 2021 at 10:56pm

That 10pm thing is outdated, mainly because people do shift work.
The question is whether the noise interferes with the other's enjoyment of the space. Too much noise at any time can get you packing.
When apartment living, learn to not stomp while walking, don't crank the bass on stereos (or, really, just get wireless headsets, they are everywhere now) and no loud yelling/ out of control behavior that makes noise.
Those are the big three that result in packing orders as your landlord looks for a new tenant.

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