Getting back to normal

So things are starting to open back up, we can have people over again, much more freedom to socialize and go out and about. Although, I've learned over the last year, that I didn't like the people I was spending most of my time with, and during covid they basically ghosted me, and I'm okay with that. My pre-covid friends were people that shout talked at me and even if I could get a word in edgewise they'd not remember what I said later, so do I really care if I can see them again. No, no I don't. I'm way to good for them and their negativity anyways.

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I am beginning to think

May 27, 2021 at 2:15pm

That there needs to be a meetup group for people who realized they can’t stand their friends during the pandemic.

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Anonymous

May 27, 2021 at 2:36pm

Was going to write the same thing...

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time

May 27, 2021 at 3:52pm

to be gone like yesterday

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Oh

May 27, 2021 at 5:02pm

Another one of these confessions.
great.

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Oh yeah

May 27, 2021 at 5:24pm

I know just what you mean. May we all find better friends. Or just continue to love our own company.

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@ oh

May 27, 2021 at 8:33pm

Another one of these comments. Great.
People really found out who their friends were this year, do you have a problem with that?

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Okay

May 27, 2021 at 9:22pm

But what if your friends are saying the same thing about you? There’s been so many similar confessions here recently. Could it be that we’re all just sick of each other? This has been an unprecedented situation that none of us have ever experienced before. It stands to reason that we’re all affected by it in many ways. I think that people have so many expectations of other people, and not nearly enough of them for themselves. Maybe instead of thinking about how all these other people have failed YOU, you could spend some time reflecting on what you’ve brought to the table yourself? Just a thought...

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Good for you

May 27, 2021 at 10:05pm

Just ditch all the idiots behind and take care of yourself. Who needs them.

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@ Okay

May 28, 2021 at 5:26am

I think the key words in this confession are “shout talk at me.” It sucks to feel more like a garbage receptacle than a friend whose needs and boundaries are considered.

Re: reflecting on what was brought to the table, maybe OP has already done this? The thing is, in these dynamics you often have one person who is really hard on themselves but doesn’t deserve to be while the other person lacks insight about the harm their behaviour has caused.

If an apology and makeup happens, the person who is naturally more accountable ends up shouldering the majority of the blame and apologizing while the other person takes this as permission to keep things as they are and start the unsustainable cycle all over again.

Sometimes there are no solutions and the friendship has to dissolve. I’m with OP here.

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@ @ok

May 28, 2021 at 9:56am

I have a problem with the over abundance of these so-called confessions that get repeated over and over again.
Okay made a good point too.

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