Is this confession real? I wouldn’t want to be your husband. I know your entitled to your feelings about this situation but it just comes off badly. Poor kid...

... would honestly be more concerned about the effect you'd be having on the kid by arguing with the father about this. I mean it's a three year old I don't know what you're in it to do like if you want to have kids with this guy eventually well whose kids they are and that's something that you know very small minded people think about I mean come on it's a child one child just as good as any other aren't they? I had a couple of parents who split up amicably there was no halfway houses or other stuff involved then it still damn near well let's face it and I'm never going to be like the people I know who have normal families and everyone I know who's happy and healthy they all come from normal families you know that's the big correlation I see and the evidence shows that having a normal intact family is very important but the evidence also shows that this kid will be far better off with a loving father than with a struggling prostitute mother. Certainly it would be completely and grossly inappropriate for the child's best interest to be subordinated to your infantile and capacity to care for him. he's not a child from a previous relationship he is your husband's child and if you're his wife he's your child if you're not mature enough to understand that I submit you don't know what husband and wife mean dear.

Leave him. He and his child will be better off. Please never have children of your own.

You DID sign up for this. You're a stepmother ffs, because you married a guy with custody of a child. You sound unbelievably selfish, petulant and just plain awful. Poor kid...you're a stepmother from hell by the sounds of it ...

Can you please just leave him now before you destroy that poor child.

You knew he had a kid when you got together. Giving up your "oasis" for a short time to provide stability for a kid who's life is in massive transition is the decent thing to do. Please do not have kids of your own.

When you enter into a relationship with someone who has children you ARE signing up for exactly that. Your partner is this child’s father, he chose to have a child with this woman who let’s face it is dealing with circumstances that are no place for any child to have to witness. As someone who I’m assuming loves this man, how could you possibly not fully open your heart and your home to one of the, if not THE most important parts of him. I understand this child is not your own, but let’s remember that this is a CHILD who is completely innocent to what is going on right now. How confusing must it be for them this early on in their little lives, and than to be somewhere safe with two adults who should be doing nothing but making him feel just that and you are upset because you don’t have a home gym now?? This is someone’s life your talking about. The someone the person you’ve chosen to spend the rest of your life with has created. Being a parent is a lifetime commitment, and the sad reality of addictions is that a large majority of people don’t make it out. Of course if the mother is in a healthy and stable environment suitable for a child than I would encourage that relationship, but until than and even after that you should be willing and ready with open arms to be that healthy, safe place for this child because you can.

Contending with a small child, a recovering addict ex, and a spoiled brat for a wife. You don't deserve to have this man or his child in your life. You should live alone, so that everything can be exactly tailored to your needs 24/7. You aren't suited to the sacrifice, patience and forbearance that is required of marriage and family. May the Universe bless and keep that 3 year old child. May he blossom and shine in spite of you.

Wow!!!! I feel sorry for the kid.You have a chance to be a positive influence in this child's life but instead you act jealous and insecure.I truly hope this child hasn't heard you arguing about them.This child sounds like they've been through alot already so why not give them love instead of your pettiness? And yes,you did sign up or this by choosing to be with someone with a child.Your lack of ability to love this child says alot about you.

That's hard. A single father raising two three-year olds.