Lifes lessons

20 years ago, an owner of a diving and kayak shop came into a class full of their newest keener optimistic students and gave a life lesson. It was about previous students who had, after getting their start with this store start their own shop. Long story short, it was a lesson that when they went bankrupt the owner went in and bought up their supplies. Didn't need them, didn't want them, but it was about pride or something, The lesson was for us to not f*ck them over, but the lesson has always stood out to me. A few years ago my ex came back in my life. Something she said she would never do and would be mean if I ever did to her. The thing was, I was doing fine, but she had just opened a business and coincidentally needed to show me. At the time I went on a black out drinking mess. That's on me. full stop. I sobered up. Got my shit together and moved on. The thing is.... as a business in Vancouver during COVID, she has been wiped out. First by the first year, and then by the fact this summer has effectively been cancelled. I go back to what this owner told me years ago. Open a business, but if you f*ck with people in doing so, they will pick your carcass clean. I stayed sober. I also have not once bothered her during this trying year. I learned how much she hurt me flaunting a momentary success and that I would not want to do that to anyone. The world has not changed.

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Everyone in this confession

May 5, 2021 at 4:42pm

sounds kinda shitty tbh.

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Is that all there is to it?

May 5, 2021 at 7:06pm

Your post sounds a lot more like a “na nah na nah nah” than anything else. Grow up.

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Anonymous

May 5, 2021 at 8:15pm

what?

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You know?

May 5, 2021 at 9:07pm

The same people you meet going up the ladder are the same people you meet going down the ladder. It works both ways so if you're thinking of screwing someone, think it over.

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I think what he's saying is...

May 5, 2021 at 10:14pm

... just because someone treats you poorly, doesn't mean you have to seek revenge. It's better for your own soul/sanity to seek the higher ground. And just stay away from toxic people who want to take advantage.

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The ladder?

May 6, 2021 at 7:53am

I've been pushed off the ladder so many times that I don't even care anymore.

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@ The ladder?

May 6, 2021 at 12:55pm

For real. The ladder is basically an MC Escher artwork at this point.

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Uncertain

May 6, 2021 at 4:37pm

that your silence is taken as kind gesture as you assume by your ex. She likely does not know what your thoughts are.

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@You know?

May 7, 2021 at 3:27pm

This is one of those sayings thats sound good or even true once in awhile but is just non sense generally and useless to know.

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Anonymous

May 7, 2021 at 9:11pm

Sometimes setting a boundary is mistaken for revenge by people who's norm is pushing and crossing them, getting away with it and not caring who they hurt.

You can't always stay away when the manipulators keep coming back out of desperation, believing they're competing with you when in reality you couldn't care less.

No contact is a good idea in theory but not always feasible. It is comforting in those instances to know the universe has a way of righting wrongs whether we take apt action or not.

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