My friend attraction

I am totally attracted to friends who exhibit signs of strong leadership and purposeful action. This is a lifelong pattern, and as long as the person has strength of character as well as charisma, I am going to want to be in that person's company for a long time. I really appreciate steadfastness which is being steady. It perseveres. It is dependable. When steadfast, we remain true to our purpose; whatever happens. Steadfastness grows with challenge, but do not confuse it for being stubborn. Steadfastness finds its strength in discerning a direction that has meaning for us. Consider it being purposefully stubborn, if you will. Steadfastness is like a strong and sturdy ship with a destination in mind and heart. It is grounded in the most powerful of motivations. It can be flexible in approach but determined in destination. Water is steadfast. Try to stop it. If you do manage to block it, it will find a way around down, through, over or under. It is headed to the ocean.


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Is this another way...

May 7, 2021 at 2:56pm

to say that you want to feed off of your friend's success? This seems like a class thing... keep the rich rich, etc. Networking.

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Shiny loonie

May 7, 2021 at 3:48pm

Just beware of narcissists, cult leaders, and productivity bros that use that charisma and calm persuasion to steer you off your own path in order to support theirs.

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May 7, 2021 at 3:49pm

Honestly, there is a lot of this that you are projecting on someone. Usually new traits from sources are seen through the eyes of beauty. Nothing wrong with that. This reads more like an infatuation with stability and strength that YOU have, then it is about a particular person. This person happens to be where you are projecting what you want.

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I wonder

May 7, 2021 at 5:35pm

What your strong charactered friends think of someone who just clings on?

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May 7, 2021 at 8:22pm

Umm, this isn't a dating site, and you forgot to mention you're submissive. Don't worry, there's a sub/dom site for you. Try bdsm.ocm Have fun out there. ;)

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L. Lane

May 7, 2021 at 8:29pm

Who Clark?! Ew. No.

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Wyatt Empthys

May 7, 2021 at 8:43pm

I couldn’t stop laughing after the first sentence. Just gets better and better!

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So interesting!

May 8, 2021 at 12:24am

Not sure why you're getting downvoted - - you said nothing that screams 'classist success', 'narcissism ' or 'infatuation' whatsoever. Certain responses above seem to express their OWN projection about what your words meant to THEM, in their very individual interpretive offence to your words. They seem to be saying, "How dare you design to align yourself with people who are steadfast in their purposeful action...?!"

They seem to be saying, "I have none of my own, so how dare you say you wouldn't want anything to do with me without meeting or knowing me...?"

But you weren't speaking to them; you were just speaking of your own experience in being drawn to motivated and discerning people. Your People could be steadfast about Spiritual growth for all anyone knows. Your people could be fighting for our climate crisis, or for those considered by society as Lesser Than. You never once mentioned anything about 'rich people networking.' None of your words alluded to tactics I believe 'cult leaders' would use. Admiration of traits does not automatically mean you're 'infatuated' with anyone.

So interesting that all of us who have responded had such differing interpretations of what seems to be a very vague post about the traits a stranger admires.

In any case, water indeed is just water. It doesn't ask itself why it moves the way it does; it simply does. That kind of personal stability and grounding is indeed inspirational. And it doesn't have to be about capitalism or material acquisition at all; we can simply move like water with purpose through our own lives. I'm drawn toward the same. Kudos and cheers for knowing the kinds of herds with whom you want to run :)


May 8, 2021 at 3:25am

.. and everything else including ourselves is being converted to standing reserve in the words of Martin Heidegger. The poster is right with water naturally flows downhill whether to the ocean or into some Basin is another matter. Over the last two centuries, this natural progression has been replaced with the damming and conversion to standing reserve. The essay I think that he talks about this and it's been many years is that the question concerning technology. It was funny because I had a few professors who were quite intelligent like to the point of being child prodigies I was one of those too and we could all understand Heidegger but when it came to the faculty who just worked really hard at it it was like they couldn't understand what he was saying...

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Sure thing

May 8, 2021 at 6:48am

Everyone has some characteristics that they find appealing in others. I can admire those of my friends who are purposeful in their actions and goals, but to me there has to be balance. Someone who is relentlessly goal-obsessed (regardless of what the goals are) can be draining to be around for long. I might admire them but I don’t necessarily want to hang out with them much.

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