Didn't mean to

But I secretly fell in love with my best friend. Now it's gone from being delightful and supportive to awkward and painful.

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Anonymous

Jun 1, 2021 at 4:56pm

it only gets worse! falling for a friend i had to move to the other side of the earth. and never talk to them again. and i still thought of them every day for over a decade!

Ask them out

Jun 1, 2021 at 6:24pm

What have you got to lose?The longer you wait the more painful it will be to suppress those emotions. Ask them out. You're already best friends, there's no better ground to start a relationship on.

Your...

Jun 1, 2021 at 7:03pm

friendship is pretty much doomed....sorry.

If I were you

Jun 1, 2021 at 9:21pm

If I were you I would tell him right now because its extremely stressful to keep such a secret.

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op

Jun 2, 2021 at 11:58am

We both agreed years ago to never explore anything romantic because we valued our friendship too much. While he is an attractive person, he wasn't personally my cup of tea. But over time, feelings have changed and I feel totally confused about what I'm actually feeling. It might be a temporary infatuation? I just don't want to ruin a long, solid, true blue friendship. They're rare & precious.

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Wait..

Jun 2, 2021 at 1:06pm

Did you just post the next comment about drunk sex?
I think I see where this is going...

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I’m so sorry, but

Jun 2, 2021 at 5:24pm

Being friends with someone you’ve developed stronger feelings for means sitting across from them with a smile on your face while your heart shatters into pieces as they tell you about this other person they’ve met that they want to date. Over and over.

You’re not really their friend anymore. You’re there because you want more than friendship. If it’s clear to you they don’t, then the best thing you can do for your own mental health and future happiness is gently exit the friendship. If they really care about you, they will understand that you need to free up the space in your heart they occupy for someone who will reciprocate love. The longer you sit there in agony, the longer it will take to move on. Free yourself. You deserve love.

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Sonny Boy

Jun 2, 2021 at 9:46pm

I read this comment. And then the one above it. And then I wonder if it is the same two people sharing their perspectives.

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W. Acko

Jun 3, 2021 at 1:49am

I know what you mean… my right hands now jealous of my left. It’s getting ugly.

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@Im so sorry

Jun 4, 2021 at 7:29pm

I wrote the ask them out comment. What you shared was heartbreaking to read. I'm sorry you're going through that.

I don't know everything about your situation from what you've said but you are speaking of Love. I wonder how clear your feelings were communicated. Some things aren't that obvious to everyone - hints and subtlety aren't enough where the heart's concerned. If you're planning to leave the friendship, why not share what you wrote with them (likely a him seeing that they're clueless to your heart breaking), and give your heart a chance to express how deeply it feels for them before you say goodbye. Assuming it was never put out there. You have decided to move on, you have nothing to lose but regret. Good luck.

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