forever alone

Even though we're allowed to have 5 guests inside our homes or gatherings of up 10 outdoors, I'm seeing no one, because no one wants to see me.

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automaton

Jun 3, 2021 at 3:43pm

You may be surprised to realize that those whom you think do not want to see you may think the exact same thing that you are.

Don't wait for this to change, be the change. Make some calls.

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@be the change. Make some calls.

Jun 3, 2021 at 4:43pm

Yes yes yes and yes some more. Don't let the divide-and-conquer undercurrents pull you under. There are many feeling the same as you and they will be thankful for your outreach. You can do it. Where there's a will there's a way.

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Huh,

Jun 3, 2021 at 6:07pm

scratching my head here. Wonder why? I'm with @automaton.

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Loneliness kills

Jun 3, 2021 at 7:57pm

It really does. I completely understand how you feel. I’m a loner usually, although I do have some great friends. It’s just that they’re all living elsewhere and very busy with their own lives. I made the ginormous mistake many years ago, of falling for someone who was totally unavailable in a real sense, so now that it’s over, I don’t have a partner and I’m so traumatized by such an awful relationship that I can’t even imagine ever dating again. So now I’m just putting all of my energy into moving forward, in every way. Physically leaving town, and shutting my heart down for that person forever. But it’s breaking my heart, and being all alone to cope with it all really, really sucks.

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Dr. Rogers

Jun 4, 2021 at 3:56am

Seeing and hearing are two different senses…

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Anonymous

Jun 4, 2021 at 9:22am

Maybe there's a reason no one want to visit you.
Get some chips and dip.
That will win them over.
Bahaha

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There will always be

Jun 4, 2021 at 4:43pm

Those people who don't understand this situation. They think it is so easy to get out of. All these lonely people - if they just got together they wouldn't be lonely anymore. True but for whatever reason, it doesn't work like that. We join Facebook groups, meetups, professional organizations, activity groups, social apps. We create detailed profiles that (accurately or no) tout ourselves as open, inclusive, fun, interesting, active, engaging. We get involved, organize, reach out, try to connect. We invest hours into chatting online with others. But the truth is this: most people want to do only exactly what they want to do and only exactly how and when they want to do it but they don't want to take the time to make it happen themselves. How likely is it that you are going to find that one person who wants to go standup paddleboarding at Deep Cove at 2:30 on Tuesday afternoon for 1hr 45mins at a pace of 1kph with a stop at Starbucks on the way? And how likely are their whims going to line up with your whims at any point in the future? Multiply the hours of effort that went into the planning of that one-off event relationship with all the other times you want someone to do something some other time. I don't have those multiple spare hours every day to arrange a meagre social life. No-one does. So until people begin to realize that they can't always have it their way all the time (unlikely; realize this is Vancouver after all), lonely people stay lonely.

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The positive

Jun 5, 2021 at 2:01pm

The benefit of not having friends or friends with benefit is that is the actual benefit. No drama. The virus is forcing us all to be more introspective and that's really not a bad thing. You'll make some new friends when the time is right.

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