I Wish

The man I’m in unreciprocated love with was tipsy the other night and going on about how selfless he is in life and how he’s hooked up friends that have gotten married and had kids. He was saying it’s time to focus on himself and hook himself up. I was just sitting there thinking “well, you can, I’m right here.” He didn’t seem to clue in and now I can’t stop thinking about how much that hurt me. I’d like to have kissed him in that moment but I missed the opportunity. I hesitated. We’ve hooked up a bunch and he’s with me a lot but it’s never more than what feels like a fling. I want to be vulnerable with him but my gut tells me I’ll get my heart broken. Love hurts. :( <\3

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Heavymetaldrummer

Jun 7, 2021 at 10:14pm

Dont waste another minute with this person. He does not want you and you know it.

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You're worth so much more

Jun 7, 2021 at 11:59pm

than being a casual hook-up/convenient audience for his complaining. Time to exit politely out of this hot mess & find reciprocal friendships and romantic relationships.

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ew

Jun 8, 2021 at 1:03am

so you're his blow up doll for when he's horny nothing more

Feels

Jun 8, 2021 at 6:57am

It’s so hard to be in that type of situation. Hopefully you’ll find the strength to end this painful relationship. It’s not working and the red flags are huge. Take it from someone who waited far too long for someone to step up, and lost myself in the process. Nothing changed for him except that I got older. Don’t throw away any more of your precious time.

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Use your words

Jun 8, 2021 at 8:04am

No one reads minds

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Your gut is smart

Jun 8, 2021 at 10:01am

Anyone who goes on about how "selfless" they are is typically a selfish asshole.

As for the play by play you provided, sounds like he was either intentionally trying to hurt you or baiting an emotional reaction from you in order to transfer the duties of emotional labour from his shoulders to yours. Both of these moves suck.

Set yourself free, friend :) Fuck this guy.

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Cat

Jun 8, 2021 at 10:06am

It's time to face reality;he's just not that into you and the sooner you accept that and move on,the happier you'll be.I stupidly pursued a man who would never feel the same way.Ask yourself why you're chasing someone who is obviously not interested in being with you.Value yourself and don't waste anymore time on him.You can't make someone want to be with you.I know unrecipricated love hurts but move on,life is short.

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HEy OP

Jun 8, 2021 at 12:33pm

Agree with the others. Give up and move on.
Either find someone else (either seek actively or wait for serendipity) or learn to enjoy being single.
I've been single for 8 years come the end of July and it has been so peaceful (i was with a constantly unemployed control freak who lusted after underage girls).
Being single doesn't have to mean loneliness. Just stop wanting to be in a romantic/sexual relationship. People try to say that it's natural to want to be in a relationship, but actually it's societal programming. It starts when we're little girls and they read us those bullshit "happily ever after" stories. We get bombarded by various forms of media telling us that we Should want to be in a relationship.
But I've found that as long as you have family/friends, maybe pet(s), and hobbies, that's enough.

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Wake up

Jun 8, 2021 at 12:35pm

And smell the shite! You are a side piece to him. If u want to torture yourself then continue and if not then get the hell away.

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Ya...

Jun 8, 2021 at 1:31pm

reverse the genders involved and the situation would be referred to as empowering for the woman....right ?

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