A first

A gentleman I began seeing confessed he was married on our third date. Though he insisted it was just a “formality”, I have zero interest in any type of adultery, so I ran away as fast as I could. No regrets about doing so, but I am still sad as he was the first person I could see myself falling for in quite a while. Thanks again, dating apps.

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Did you consider

Jul 11, 2021 at 7:15am

he might have said that because either (a) he decided you weren't right for him and that was a way to get rid of you w/o having to hurt your feelings, or (b) he wanted to be able to use you for sex but keep you from trying to become anything serious and/or keep you from coming over to his place.

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Huh?

Jul 11, 2021 at 9:23am

You’re not committing adultery if you’re not married. Technically I suppose he is, but if he’s legally separated then it really is just a formality. My ex and I were legally separated for 5 years and both of us were in new relationships before we bothered with actually getting a divorce, and that was only because one of us wanted to get married to the new person. So I think you made a rush to judgement here that you probably shouldn’t have.

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So Sad

Jul 11, 2021 at 10:28am

What a tragedy, a Liar on a dating app.
There are plenty of us Single Men out here looking for A Honest and Real women.
Real People for Real People.
Don't be Shy say Hi.
Peace

A “gentleman”

Jul 11, 2021 at 2:34pm

would not tell you this on the 3rd date. Not a gentleman in any sense of the word, this dude.

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I feel for ya

Jul 11, 2021 at 9:13pm

I got involved with someone who insisted “ it’s been over for years” and that they decided to sleep with other people.... and boy did I learn. People can be very deceptive.

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Mine said

Jul 11, 2021 at 10:02pm

they were living in the same house for financial reasons but he had his own separate suite in the basement . Months later I saw that there was no suite in the basement and it seemed he always had to be home for the dinner hour.

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Anonymous

Jul 11, 2021 at 11:56pm

Men!! Why do they have to be such... men!!!

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Kudos for being true to you.

Jul 12, 2021 at 12:45am

You deserve so much more than to play silly games with little boys. And sadly, they're a dime a dozen. A word of unsolicited advice? Ditch the dating apps. They magnetically attract creepy cheaters just hoping to latch on to their next victim.

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But seriously…

Jul 12, 2021 at 6:13pm

Did you actually ask him if he was legally separated ? Because if he is, that’s almost as good as being divorced other than a very easily arranged piece of paper. You haven’t elaborated so I guess we’ll never know.

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Legalities

Jul 13, 2021 at 1:32pm

Many people do not know that the government won't let you legally divorce unless you have been separated for at least a year.

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