I miss my kitty

I put her down a few days ago. I am regretful I didn't notice her decline sooner and wonder if I made the right choice not pushing harder to see if she could recover.

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Vets...

Jul 10, 2021 at 5:46am

... will do a lot if you pay them. Also depending on the vet you know they're not going to directly say come on put it down. My dad had a dog that went through probably six more months than it should have due to getting IV treatments for its kidneys and Mom had a dog that was having seizures that you know it's like if it's falling down the stairs it's time to put it down. This wasn't a big dog mind you.

I had to go to the appointment with the vet with my dad for one of these things and it was quite clear to me that the vet was saying you've had good life with the dog it's time to go, but he wasn't going to say that directly.

My own view is that if a dog or cat is suffering everything that is eventually and there's no point to living when your life is nothing but suffering as for prospects of recovery they're not that good when you got you know animals naturally decline and there's not much you can do.

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northislandgal

Jul 10, 2021 at 7:44am

PLEASE let yourself off the hook you cant read minds you did the best you could.

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autoxylopyrocycloboros

Jul 10, 2021 at 8:18am

I'm so sorry for the loss of your furry friend. Please don't beat yourself up; you loved your cat and were obviously kind and caring to them. We all have some regrets about not doing enough for / spending enough time with our loved ones, both human and non-human- please don't dwell on those. Remember how much you loved, and were loved, and all the goodness; in time, that's all you will remember of your time with them.
You are a good person- your cat, up there at the Rainbow Bridge, waiting for you, will agree.

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I had a traumatic experience.

Jul 10, 2021 at 1:46pm

To make a long story short, I trusted my veterinarian, and paid thousands of dollars to treat my dog, when in fact the humane thing to have done would be to let her go. She was my first dog and I honestly didn't know any better. I thought I was doing the right thing by trusting the veterinarian. I think it's understandable to wonder if you did the right thing. It's a very delicate situation. I'm very sorry for your loss.

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Fionia

Jul 10, 2021 at 2:26pm

I had to say goodbye to my sweet boy in February and I understand your doubt, but imagine if she got way worse and the end result was the same. You are brave and a good fur-baby mama.

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@I had a traumatic experience.

Jul 10, 2021 at 4:42pm

It really weirds out a lot of people but I sort of say if the dogs over about 10 and the vet wants like $2,000 or something well you can get another dog for less than $2,000 generally even if it's a purebred depending not that we have those I'm just saying...

And is another poster says if the veterinarian can sell you a $150 euthanasia or a $1,500 two-night treatment I mean they all got to eat and they're not governed by ethics the same way that physicians are. Like I'm not sure if a lot of dog owners even know that if they want their dog put down that that has to do it it's not like it has to be medically necessary.

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Aw

Jul 10, 2021 at 5:37pm

My cat was gone in 36 hrs (actually all 3 that I've have had) - happened last spring and vet wouldn't let me say good bye because of covid. Happens fast

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Been there

Jul 10, 2021 at 5:57pm

Like others have said, please try not to do the “what if” thing. We can always imagine a different outcome “if only”. But it serves no purpose at all to dwell on that because it’s in the past. You did the best that you could based on the information you had to go on at the time. Not to mention that you may have spent thousands of dollars only to delay the inevitable, as well as prolonging the suffering of your beloved pet. So please try to think of it this way: they’re no longer suffering. By putting them through what very likely would have been extensive and painful medical procedures, they may have lived longer, but what would their quality of life have been? Would they be sick and in pain? Would that have served any purpose other than to keep them with you longer? Chances are that you made the absolute right decision for you both, and remember that your life and wellbeing matters just as much as theirs did. You loved them and you did the kindest thing you could do for them by setting them free from this earthly suffering. Now please set yourself free too.

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Jim In Kits

Jul 11, 2021 at 7:09am

It is never easy….it a bad choice surrounded by worse choices…it take real courage to put your animal friend down….but it is the an important act of love to protect them from pain and a stressful demise.

The days will pass your grief will end but you will always miss them and one day thinking of them will again bring joy to your heart

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@@ I had a traumatic experience

Jul 11, 2021 at 2:34pm

I’m trying to make sense of your comment. It’s not easy. But one thing I think you’re mistaken about for sure is the idea that vets will just try to “sell” you a euthanasia. In my experience with multiple animals and several different vets, unless your animal is truly in a terminal situation (as in, they’ve been severely injured or have a serious illness and will die without very expensive treatment, or they’re otherwise suffering and putting them out of their misery is the kindest option), no vet I’ve encountered will agree to euthanize an animal. If you know of one that will just “sell” you something like euthanasia, then you’ve found a very unethical vet and they’re definitely not the norm.

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