Where are all the lonely people?

I wish our society had a better way of flagging or identifying lonely and single people in our society. Maybe a special shirt or hat that says “I’m single, feel free to come up and talk to me if you’re interested.” You never know how many single people are out there. I was out and about, hanging out by myself last weekend, and I would have given anything to have someone to grab dinner with. I’m sure I wasn’t alone. Just a way to take the stigma and tabooness out of it all!

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Waatlp

Jul 30, 2021 at 6:25pm

Exactly! That would be wonderful!

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ever

Jul 30, 2021 at 8:20pm

Wearing a shirt with words like that is only for millennials and before. You'd never see me wear something like that...ever.

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fly

Jul 31, 2021 at 8:49am

There was talk of creating special benches around the city that tells others you would welcome conversation. I would like that myself. Sometimes a random conversation can make my day.

19 1Rating: +18

Good Idea

Jul 31, 2021 at 9:02am

In a world where smiling at someone as you pass on the sidewalk is considered a micro-aggression, this t-shirt idea is very good. It allows people to be civil without legal risk.

Advertising your aloneness

Jul 31, 2021 at 10:09am

might not be wise in all situations.

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Taboo and stigma?

Jul 31, 2021 at 11:12am

Being "single" is taboo?

16 4Rating: +12

go ahead

Jul 31, 2021 at 12:07pm

As far as I can tell, you can definitely have a t shirt made for yourself, considering that you find the need to advertise your marital or relationship status. As for others, I doubt they will be interested in "society" tracking their relationships -- do u have any sense of privacy for yourself or others? Why the need to advertise your relationship status?

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when all the tables are taken

Jul 31, 2021 at 2:43pm

When traveling I have found that if I'm in a restaurant that is full but there are singles at some tables with a vacant seat available I have approached them or vice versa and ask if they'd share their table. This hasn't happened often but always ended up being a pleasant experience as no pick up/no creeping/no pressure existed.

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All you have to do...

Jul 31, 2021 at 5:47pm

Is ask them. They'll say yes or no, no big deal. There's no stigma or taboo about it. I meet people that way all the time, a lot of people ignore me, sometimes I'm not in the right space to meet new ppl, and I tell them, they've never minded my reaction, neither have I minded theirs. Sure you can approach it aggressively, making t-shirts & other paraphernalia, or you & like-minded people could grow up, have some emotional regulation, not assuming & projecting your thoughts & outcomes onto people who are navigating life on their own. The problem is entitlement to getting a specific reaction and fear of rejection. Why single out singles? Not everyone that's lonely wants romance. If the issue is a pandemic of loneliness, ask them how they're doing without an agenda of what you can get out of it. It might not always be the reaction you want, maybe you'll make a friend, maybe they'll feel better knowing someone cared and you both go your separate ways. I don't get this need to rush into knowing everything about peoples business. There's no patience or curiosity or taking the time to get to know anyone anymore. It's all "what can I get out of it, what do they have I want".

20 5Rating: +15

Lonely person

Jul 31, 2021 at 6:10pm

Sort of like the opposite of a wedding ring
I avoid those people

4 7Rating: -3

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