Unexpected guestsposted August 2nd, 2021 at 2:42 PM I hate short notice visits, even if it’s family. Show 10 Comments 10 Comments Post a Comment Are you suggestingAug 2, 2021 at 5:02pmthat you'll actually come visit, reunify and rescue me from this farcical decades-long real-life torture chamber now?Or is this another of the sixteen thousand carrots on sticks used to keep me here for experiential eternity in a violently suppressed, tortured state? AnonymousAug 2, 2021 at 5:48pmEspecially family I...Aug 2, 2021 at 6:00pm... wish I had family to visit me. Out of provinceAug 2, 2021 at 7:09pmYou can have guests inside? tiredeyes @Are you suggestingAug 2, 2021 at 7:41pmthere's an x on top. top right corner of your screen. click it. freedom is at your hands and it's your hands that steer your decisions... quit stringing yourself your own carrots. I love short notice visitsAug 2, 2021 at 9:53pmespecially if its family, and not only bio-family but family of the heart too ... it takes a village I don't answer the buzzerAug 2, 2021 at 10:19pmI never answer the buzzer unless I'm expecting a guest or parcel delivery. If my MIL says she'll stop by "tomorrow", I always ask what time. If she shows up an hour early as she's known to do, I don't answer. Then she'll phone. I don't answer. At five minutes before the actual arranged time, then I'll answer. My husband does the same. Boundaries are important. @I don't answer the buzzerAug 3, 2021 at 9:47amYeah boundary is like a factual term so sure boundaries are important but you know the more I hear about how people behave as individuals the more I think that there's something fundamentally dysfunctional about our society I mean I can't imagine that either of you are good enough people to have any sort of universal care ethic because it's all about you and your boundaries so you know we all who have a universal care ethic we support all of you and we've built institutions that you just take advantage of and then set a line so that you have to put in the least effort possible jeez. OPAug 3, 2021 at 6:00pmThis appears to have been taken out of context by some people. Just because I don’t enjoy unexpected drop ins to my home, doesn’t mean I’m not a loving and caring person towards my friends and family. I see that some of you love to assume things about someone you don’t even know, creating a wild story in your head of what kind of people the confessors must be on this page. @@I don't answer the buzzerAug 3, 2021 at 9:55pmYou have no idea the context of why that person doesn't answer the buzzer. Don't let people walk over you. Should I answer the door when I'm naked after a shower and just let people on up? How about while I have a migraine? Should I force myself to socialize until I black out? Give me a break and learn some self care there, buddy. LOAD MORE Join the Discussion Your name Comment * your name What's your name?