I genuinely don’t believe in love anymore
posted October 30th, 2021 at 4:06 PM
Been on dating apps for over a year, been on over 10 dates this year and yet nothing at all… I am in my early 20s and it looks like men within my age range (21-26) don’t want any commitment, although a lot of friends my age are having success in that apartment. I always saw myself as a marriage type but I'm tired of failure upon failure…
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Recovering Lust Addict
Oct 31, 2021 at 1:06am
I look at my parents and I see love. I look at this porn addicted generation and ya… I start questioning it. Generation Flake. But they’re too cool so my critique won’t affect them.
what is love?
Oct 31, 2021 at 2:15am
Love is a deep affection giving freely without restriction. Maybe stop trying to order it on Amazon
Oct 31, 2021 at 2:51am
... is probably that you're using dating apps. There is not an app for everything. If your social skills aren't such that you're meeting people through normal life then they may not be for a committed relationship. Of the people I've known online who have gotten married and I've known many many people who've used the internet since well before all of you whippersnappers started using it only a very few of them who are well-socialized outside of the internet ever made it work. So if you're only going on dates from social media or dating apps then that probably says something about your socialisation. It's not and I can appreciate how difficult it must be for someone who's in the early twenties who's grown up with these things because if you're in your early twenties smartphones came around in 2007 or so and you may have had one for much of your teenage years for all I know. That said you should try to be aware that dating apps are an aberration they're the equivalent of placing an ad in the newspaper personal section. It's not wrong to do that it's just not how the bulk of successful relationships are formed. It doesn't mean it's impossible but I'm sure you can appreciate the difference between someone who puts a personal ad out there and that's older relying on and someone who does that but then is also approachable and personable in public and in other areas of life.
Oct 31, 2021 at 6:50am
You can tell when people write pedantic statements about something they've never experienced yet desperately want to leave their mark somehow.
Love is out there
Oct 31, 2021 at 7:57am
It's just not on the apps. Stay open, focus on your own hopes and dreams, delete the apps, and love will come to you when the time is right.
Oct 31, 2021 at 8:41am
So where did you find that apartment ?
So hard to cum by in Vancouver.
Oct 31, 2021 at 9:56am
I have dated or been in a relationship with in this city has been "poly" which to me means that they are not mature enough for a relationship that has actual accountability. What a great place we live.
Author of the post
Oct 31, 2021 at 1:13pm
Thanks for the advice guys :) it’s true, I do happen to be a little shy in my social interactions in real life. But I will make an effort to meet people through work/ activities I do
Oct 31, 2021 at 1:59pm
Change genders- on your profile- and see how it goes. You got 10 dates, when maybe 10-20% of all guys on dating sites will even get a reply back from a woman. Much less go on a date, or even-gasp- 10 in a year.
Oct 31, 2021 at 2:48pm
I'm in my 40s and have the same problem. Whether I meet men from apps or in person, I hear the same thing - "not looking for commitment." It's a societal issue, not necessarily a personal one, and it has little to do with "socialization", whatever that means. I have no words of advice, because I haven't solved this problem yet either. Just wanted you to know someone else is in the same boat.
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