I want toposted October 22nd, 2021 at 10:51 PM meet new people and they are trying but my defence mechanism that has helped me in the past are now not letting new people in. What does that mean ? How do I get past this ? Help ! Show 5 Comments 5 Comments Post a Comment Sounds like you’ve got a solid goalie.Oct 23, 2021 at 3:50pmMaybe these are not your people. Or maybe your defences want to draw your attention to healing the present and past on your own so that you can set yourself up for success when you move forward with building future relationships. That's great news baby!Oct 23, 2021 at 7:56pmGiven the chance I know you'll cave in to my hugs. As you know I love you madly. OkayOct 24, 2021 at 8:28amIf you genuinely want advice, I’ll give it a shot… obviously you’ve been hurt in the past and you haven’t fully healed from it. We humans have a tendency to try to bury our pain and just soldier on, but that only works for a while. If we get hurt too many times we wind up building walls to protect ourselves that also hurt us by preventing others from getting too close. So your job now is to take some time to reflect on why you built such big walls and what you need to do to bring some of them down low enough to allow other people to get close again. Good luck my friend. One hugOct 24, 2021 at 11:31amAnd I'll convince you beautiful. @ one hugOct 24, 2021 at 10:03pmGet over yourself. Join the Discussion Your name Comment * your name What's your name?