Let me hermit

I am socially drained. People keep asking me to hang out and I just can't do it. I just want to tell everyone I know to go away. The more they tell me I need to get out more, the less I want to. Why can't people respect boundaries?

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Trading places

Oct 16, 2021 at 5:54pm

And I only saw two people for an entire year...

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I. Vurmectin

Oct 16, 2021 at 7:26pm

Parasites don’t care about your boundaries. Neither do politicians.

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Dr. No

Oct 16, 2021 at 7:46pm

I’m guessing the OP still has a healthy income stream… hence the worms. Time to take that medication the doctors are hoarding. Not the horse stuff of course. I should report my psychiatrist. He prescribed me an OCD medication that’s also used on dogs… and it helped my ocd. Weird! I’m also joking… about if I’ll report him. He knows exactly what he’s doing. Whoa I sure wandered there. Blame the foggy pills.

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Are you an introvert?

Oct 16, 2021 at 9:12pm

Introverts recharge their batteries by being alone. Extroverts recharge their batteries by being with people. You can have sociable, talkative introverts and quiet, reflective extroverts. But extroverts do a piss poor job of understanding or respecting introverts. They want the whole world to be extroverts and it just doesn't work that way. Recharge alone and don't apologize for it. If people don't understand, maybe it wasn't much of a friendship to begin with.

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No obligation

Oct 17, 2021 at 6:02am

Just don’t respond and eventually your phone will go quiet.

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OK Then

Oct 17, 2021 at 9:23am

I've known of many people like you: sensing they are lonely etc, ask them out for activities, come to BBQs etc and they always have an excuse to stay home. Then after giving up on them- they invariably claim loneliness,that they don't have any friends,and that they never get out because no one cares about them.

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It’s obvious

Oct 17, 2021 at 11:31am

They care about you, that’s why. If you’re isolating for long periods of time it’s often a sign of depression. I agree with the other comment saying that if you stop replying eventually they’ll stop asking. But if you want to have any friends at all, you’ll need to get out of your own head once in a while to interact with others. If you don’t care if you have friends then carry on as you are and you’ll achieve your goal. If you suspect that you’re depressed, if you choose not to seek help with it then you’ll continue to suffer. (Speaking from the perspective of someone who has dealt with chronic depression for my whole life.)

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@Are You

Oct 17, 2021 at 9:03pm

Extroverts don't respect introverts?
Nope.
We try to get them out of their shells and have some fun- but quickly lose interest in them because they sit around and don't say anything,and are too boring.

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@@Are you

Oct 18, 2021 at 4:34pm

Guess you’re right. It’s a little like getting a oyster to open. The harder you try to pry it open the more it shuts. Thankfully human beings have legs and can run the hell away when you try bashing us open on the rocks. Extroverts are leeches. Parasites.

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Anonymous

Oct 19, 2021 at 4:37am

Be honest that you're an introvert, and more of a homebody, thank them for the invitation, decline, and be honest about when and if you want to hang out in the future. Problem solved.

Eventually people will stop asking, but be forewarned they may stop asking altogether if you are consistently not interested at all and, and don't ever hang out. You can compromise do something more low key when you opt to hang out.

Not sure if it's just being an introvert and/or depression. If it's the latter, be honest about it.

Considering how lonely so many people are, be thankful for people that want to spend time and be with you. Would you prefer having no one?

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