Why can't I move on ?

I have lost many friends to death and drugs. My ex and I broke up a year ago and I always thought we would stay close as he was my best friend and told me he would be. He has a new girlfriend ( whom he started dating a week after telling me he loved me and would reset ) and has completely stopped talking to me. Which he should right ? It has been a year and I can't stop crying , and ruminating, I am depressed and ill. It just doesn't make sense to me that the love of my life is with some one else and doesn't care for me after 5 years of being best friends. I feel nauseous , illogical and I just wish I could move on.

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You sound like you are seeing things

Oct 20, 2021 at 9:13pm

and close to finding closure to move to higher ground. I know its not always easy but stay positive. You will get there :-)

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He was

Oct 21, 2021 at 12:40am

Obviously not the love of your life. Be thankful the moron is gone and move on with your life without that D-Bag.

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I broke up with a guy back in '96

Oct 21, 2021 at 7:31am

who I had considered the love of my life because it was obvious he wasn't in-love with me anymore (if ever), and it took about twice as many years (or so) as the relationship lasted, to get over him... so about 6-7 years.
Hopefully you can get over your ex sooner so that you don't end up like I did -wasting YEARS of your life obssessing over an ex who doesn't deserve your love devotion.
If it feels like you're not getting over him, get help (counsellor, psychologist, psychotherapist) to help speed up the process. Also consider reading 'The Power of Now' because when it comes down to it, that's really the only time you have. Don't waste it regreting the past or worrying about the future. Believe me, you will regret obssessing over an ex.

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But...

Oct 21, 2021 at 7:57am

You can move on. Obviously the ex was not honest. Work on that basis. In this case it's not you, it's him. The ex is not worth another tear.

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You need Trina

Oct 21, 2021 at 12:04pm

First off - hugs! Breakups are gut wrenching emotional rollercoasters. Breakup Boost by Trina Leckie is the friend you need! She will boost your love for yourself and your confidence.

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Anonymous

Oct 21, 2021 at 7:01pm

The discard is telling...Does it help to know there's sociopathic men out there lying their face off the entire relationship. They move from relationship to relationship fling to fling to avoid being alone. They mirror your personality and emotions to you to make you believe it's kismet, a soulmate connection. It's all fake - 5 seconds, 5 minutes, 5 years - no differ. It's what they do. Take what you can learn from it, detachment, self-love, healing from past traumas. Grieving takes time to move on from, and the ending of this relationship, in abrupt fashion, could have triggered past losses. Talking to a grief counsellor might help.

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Anonymous

Oct 22, 2021 at 10:24am

I don't get what your crying about your lucky to get away from someone that is not worth another thought or tear.
Being alone is great !! More people should try it never have anyone judging you anymore or saying harsh untrue words to you or hurt you
and never have to wait for anyone again, you can come and go as you please, you never have to listen to another boring ass story " look how great I am " and you can feel free to be your True Self.
Sounds pretty good to me getting rid of that mess !
Find you again is my advice.

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Dreams die hard

Oct 23, 2021 at 3:51am

Maybe they we more than the sum of their parts? Hard to let go of your everything

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