Self involved

I’m self involved. I rarely call or text anyone these days. It was always me taking the initiative which got really tiring because friendship is a two-way street. It felt exhausting to have to make the effort so I’m just taking a break right now. No, I don’t want to blame it on Covid or anything because I’m tired of using Covid as an excuse. It’s hard to explain… I find that the more I age, the less enthused I become. I don’t even have time or energy to get out there and try making new friends. I think I will just embrace my solitude and let nature take its course.

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Yes

Nov 24, 2021 at 4:24pm

I’m in my fifties now and I don’t care to talk all day about myself or my life. I used to be so talkative, but now I’m tired. My few friends are from childhood now, it’s too exhausting to make new ones. And that might be sad. I don’t know.

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Same Boat

Nov 24, 2021 at 4:37pm

I empathize with this. I started 5 years ago after letting go of relationships that were not healthy to maintain.

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Really?!

Nov 24, 2021 at 6:03pm

A self-involved Vancouverite, I couldn't imagine! /s

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I get it

Nov 24, 2021 at 10:00pm

Sometimes it really is too much to try to organize friends together. Totally understand just giving up on it.

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Here here

Nov 24, 2021 at 11:06pm

There’s nothing wrong with being a solitary self-sufficient hermit. You get to concentrate on the things you need to do and can actually hear yourself think. Being a hermit is not as bad as some people think. Take it from me! You can concentrate on getting all your work done and go to sleep anytime you want without worrying about other people. Now all you need’s a lover ;)

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Magnet

Nov 25, 2021 at 7:38am

You may find that’s when you start attracting the most people.

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Me too

Nov 25, 2021 at 9:27pm

I don't think people like us are "self-involved," it's just that we're tired of so called friends who don't make any effort. I had one friend (acquaintance now mostly, TBH) left that I stay in contact with. I'm always the one initiating--calling/emailing to check in etc.--but this year I waited for him to make contact. Well, the year is almost over and I haven't heard a peep from him. I don't know if I should bother contacting him again. Like you, I'm getting older OP, and getting used to solitude. I don't have the energy to try and make new friends either. When I was a kid, I dreamed of eventually having a close knit circle of friends but that never happened. I've come to terms with admitting defeat in that regard. Loneliness takes some getting used to but it's something many of us are having to learn to do.

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I understand you

Nov 26, 2021 at 1:09am

Through life I've nearly (really, nearly all the time) been the one doing the calling, doing the legwork in my friendships. I feel like I have always had shitty friends. I've called them out on it and it doesn't matter. I can go a month and not hear my phone ring once. I actually stopped socializing. The only conversations, if can call them that, are brief superficial exchanges with sales clerks the rare time I buy something. I don't feel anything. It's like I'm patiently waiting to die.
Should I do so, nobody will notice. Not sure anyone will care, either. I doubt my friends would notice.
So I know how you feel.

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Me?

Dec 9, 2021 at 5:50pm

Is that... me?

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