Forgive and move on...

I forgive all those who've ever hurt me, as well as apologize to all those I've likewise hurt -- dead and alive. I don't want to harbor anger, pain, or hurt inside of me anymore, and let it fester like a diabetic wound that never fully heals. I above all forgive myself, all my imperfections, and all my mistakes. I know I'm no saint. Every last mishap - be it big or small - has been a teacher; thus, I'm thankful. It's time to move on, mentally, physically, and spatially... and appreciate what I do have rather than pine over what I don't, and over "what ifs." I want to share love -- even with my worst enemy (for they, too, must must be writhing with pain inflicted upon them by others, or themselves!). I wish those who've come and gone from my life well; I wish myself well, too. No more looking back. No more guilt. No more "if only I'd have..." I also want to be proud of and openly wear my genuine flaws rather than spend all my energy on trying to mask them with fake perfection (a draining and never ending task). Peace to all, and to me, and to this world. What's done is done. Life's short -- and beautiful, if you choose to seek beauty in the ugly. I'm now at peace with me, and gone. Amen.

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Apology accepted

Dec 6, 2021 at 5:37am

But will you kindly return my testicles? That really hurt

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Well said ! Thank you

Dec 6, 2021 at 11:06am

When enough of us evolutionary hominoids get what you are saying; then we will cease the wars, conflict and blame-game; and move towards increasing sharing and cooperation.

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Nice

Dec 6, 2021 at 11:22am

You're able to do this, I can't. I'm willing to forgive if the person who wronged me is willing to apologize, otherwise, nope, no forgiveness from me. Yes I have been a jerk myself in the past but I will always try to make amends if someone lets me know I hurt them. (Sometimes they don't, sometimes I just stop hearing from them, addressing wrongs can be very difficult.) if the person on the receiving end does not want my apology that is up to them, and I respect that. But yeah, I have no space for forgiving sociopaths who have no ability to feel bad or sorry, it's just not worth the effort. And no, I am not harbouring hate or resentment towards these people, I feel nothing at all for people who are no longer in my life.

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yawn

Dec 6, 2021 at 1:29pm

i don't have that in me for the undeserving who forgive themselves

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@I can't

Dec 6, 2021 at 1:30pm

I'm still far from perfect but I'm learning to let go the bitterness.
To err is human
To forgive is divine
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I used to be very egotistic but now I'm perfet :-)

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@yawn

Dec 6, 2021 at 6:26pm

Haha this was my reaction to this confession exactly.

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Not so much…yet

Dec 6, 2021 at 7:03pm

Like another commenter said, if the other party doesn’t acknowledge that they wronged me, forgiveness isn’t something I’m ready to give, unless the person in question is someone I gave birth to. I’m very forgiving if the person in question has tried to make amends, said they were sorry, or has in any way acknowledged their part. But if they don’t, then even if I love them, I’m still walking.

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Well said

Dec 6, 2021 at 8:58pm

This is very rational and motivating. Thank you for sharing this. I’ve been in many intense difficult situations where I’ve misread people or they’ve misread me. There are some people who felt it was completely appropriate to bully, belittle and gaslight me. Honestly, I’m too tired to hate people and burn bridges. Burning bridges is like losing a lot of blood. It’s very exhausting: physically, mentally and emotionally. I think people tend to misunderstand the concept of forgiveness. When you forgive someone, you are no longer angry or resentful towards the person who wronged you. But just because you let go of those negative feelings of anger and sadness, that doesn’t mean you have to keep them in your life. Best thing to do is to simply wish them all the best, then go your separate ways. Life is very tough and shitty, but the best thing about life itself? It goes on. Life does go on and I’m glad you’re now at peace with yourself. Amen to you, my friend.

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@Well said

Dec 7, 2021 at 5:56am

I disagree. It’s not necessary to wish someone well in order to move on from them. There have been people who have caused me immense harm deliberately, and they’re not in my life for good reason. They did not ever acknowledge what they did and they tried to destroy me. I do not forgive them and I do not wish them well and I’m just fine with that.

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Anonymous

Dec 7, 2021 at 7:23am

Forgiveness is highly overrated.
Rot in hell I say and there is no need to forgive a person who no longer exists as far as I'm concerned.
Merry Christmas :)

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