I worry that life is meaningless randomness
posted December 18th, 2021 at 8:13 PM
and things aren't unfolding as they were supposed to..
posted December 18th, 2021 at 8:13 PM
Dan offers some advice on where she might find it.
You sat across the bar from me. I looked up and we caught each other's eye and both smiled....
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Dec 19, 2021 at 4:55am
Randomness. Chaos. It's all around...
and yet...
an ellipsis always contains THREE DOTS.
THREE FCKING DOTS.
Most serious...
Dec 19, 2021 at 6:38am
... people believe life is meaningless in the objective sense, but we can perceive things to be meaningful because of how we evolved. Wondering "what does it all mean?" without having studied neurology, biochem, etc. will leave you in the dark.
As for random, if you research what "random" means (there may be no randomness, we may live in a determinstic universe), it more or less means that if I have a sequence of symbols or symbolized events, 1100110011N, "random" means that the previous symbols (1100110011) do not provide me with enough information to determine what N will likely be. Now, in this case, the pattern is obviously that N is more likely to be 0, because every 11 is followed by a zero. But that is simply based on the data you have---the sequence could then become 11001100115356745723 for whatever reason.
So, random? I think you generally feel full if you put food in your tummy, you dont fall through the floor where your toilet is, you get wet in the rain---I don't think it is random.
Meaning, you need to make that up. Some people do this automatically (most of us do when we're kids, then it is beaten out of us by people who had it beaten out of them) but if you don't, then you will have to search for meaning somehow. Generally, this means doing a bunch of things until you find one that is meaningful, not trying to do something until it becomes meaningful.
Good News
Dec 19, 2021 at 7:28am
You can stop worrying! Life has just as much meaning as YOU give to it. Stop trying to find amusement and stimulation everywhere and go help another human being. You'll feel amazing, and all of a sudden you'll find that things are unfolding as they are supposed to!
Have a great day.
Correct
Dec 19, 2021 at 7:58am
Life is about love and being open to that.
I know a woman like you, she's in love with me but she lets her intellect get in the way.
Love doesn't care about social status, life is meaningless if you don't follow your heart.
Follow your heart, place trust in the universe, it is looking out for you.
When people were having a hard time
Dec 19, 2021 at 9:17am
Inner-city Black folks used to have a saying: "Get yourself to church!" Of course that can be a metaphor because there is not only one way or one church. For myself I had to return to my indigenous roots and get myself to the real deal Medicine people and the sweat lodge; and I started to mature into a better frame of heart. I wish you well. Walk Good.
The Approach
Dec 19, 2021 at 10:34am
We make the meaning in our lives, otherwise, you are right. Things don't generally unfold "as they were supposed to". We have to adjust our expectations and make the best of what we have, or can do. Find out what does put meaning into your life personally, aside from a sense of void in the universe.
If it’s
Dec 19, 2021 at 1:03pm
meaningless randomness than there is no ‘supposed to.’
Are you sure?
Dec 19, 2021 at 8:07pm
Are you making good choices? Are you doing your homework before acting so you're reasonably prepared or are you leaping and failing by making ill-informed actions in haste? Are you holding back instead of deciding you have nothing to lose by saying or doing something instead, being a victim of your insecurity or unpreparedness over lack of boundaries? Have you established your own boundaries so you feel secure to even act? Do you even know what your own boundaries are? Have you bothered to establish what to do when those boundaries are crossed, so you can look after yourself and your emotional well-being? Are you losing out by waiting far too long for ideal circumstances, being too much a perfectionist to the point of self-sabotage? Are you skipping steps that increase chances of failure?
Are you talking yourself out of saying what you really want to say to that person, letting your imagined fears and doubts ensure failure versus realizing you have nothing to lose (and thus my increase your chances)? Are you living your life or are you living according to what others think? Do you think others change their lives by worrying about what you think? Really? Are you sure?
When we don't act, we guarantee failure automatically. When we don't make an attempt, we 100% fail.
Know what's in your heart. Know yourself. Fill those knowledge gaps as best as you can and then take chances.
By thinking and preparing for options, you'll find that you can weather the randomness. At the very least, you'll be better mentally prepared for the options that result. You'll be able to control how you react. That matters.
If it doesn’t matter
Dec 19, 2021 at 10:16pm
Then don’t worry about it.
Accept the Void
The Universe is a beautiful, fractal, ever evolving rhythm and it doesn’t matter and all we need to do is enjoy our moments in this incarnation. We ebb and flow with the tides and the wind and that is amazing.
Trace
Dec 19, 2021 at 11:47pm
Try microdosing psilocybin. Your whole perspective can change very quickly. You need some help my friend. And help is here… look to natural remedies and get outside more ❤️
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