Attraction

posted January 19th, 2022 at 2:54 PM

I don’t know if I’m different, or if this happens to other people, but I find that with me, it takes someone REALLY special to sweep me enough off my feet, sufficiently so that I’d want to give up my freedom (which I quite enjoy), not because it gives me the liberty to sleep around, or date multiple people – which I do not do, but rather because I enjoy being on my own, making my own decisions, and generally being independent without having to consultant my plans with others. In my entire life, I’ve only met 3 people whom I liked enough to actually want to be committed to them in a relationship. None of them worked out in the end, but the last one was special. It ended as inexplicably as it began, as it appears we had very little in common other than an unimaginable physical and sexual attraction towards each other. Although it took me several years to get over this person, I think this was the closest I’ve ever come to loving someone. Simply knowing that I was going to see them that day, would make me feel butterflies in my stomach, and just being around them would turn me into an insecure little schoolboy (which I am not). We were definitely not meant to be with each other, as I would come to realize years later, but the excitement, attraction, fireworks and chemistry I felt within have been impossible to reignite by other interesting and attractive people I have met. Some years have passed since our ordeal ended, and I’m still wondering if I’m ever going to feel like that about anyone else, and If I’m ever going to find someone that makes me feel that or perhaps more.

8 Comments

It tends..

Jan 20, 2022 at 7:32pm

to take all 3, in my experience: Extreme physical/sexual, mental, and essence ("soul") resonance.

Mental resonance seems by far the rarest to find :/ I see people who have essences shining through their eyes who are definitely soulmates.. all the time, and physical attraction is pretty common.

But a surface human consciousness and mind that is effortless, wondrous and incredibly resonant and attractive, is rare as hell.

Not unusual at all

Jan 20, 2022 at 9:12pm

Lots of us feel like that. There’s very few men who make me even give a second glance. I’ve had two long term (decades) relationships, and when the last one ended badly I decided that it’s going to take a miracle of epic proportions to make me ever consider getting involved again. I’m quite happy being single.

ooshpick

Jan 21, 2022 at 7:21am

same. singlehood can be a choice. I have always said "I will only date if there is not an option to decline the suitor". It's only happened twice.

About every 10 years

Jan 21, 2022 at 4:18pm

A new one appears that dissolves my memory of the previous one

LadyRedBush

Jan 21, 2022 at 9:32pm

Well now, isn't this just the most delightfully intoxicating little post. I resemble that remark... *Sly smile* I was just describing this phenomenon like the secret boss levels of eternal champions and how to this day I've never met anyone that has mastered that final level in the game ... Yet I still have this girlish hope and dream of this unicorn existing, because if it does what it unlocks within me in return is like a serendipitous level of amazing I can only reach when two souls become one and thus not on my own.. not in the same way... Yet... Le sigh... I've only been able to dream about but boy the next lucky lad or lass will wanna be like scar said and "be prepared" ... Lol eat your wheaties and all because it's bound to get dicey ... A lady in her 30s ... Boy oh boy we do peak later than men I'm discovering...

Where was I... Oh yes, unicorns...
Mmm
I do believe in fairies... I do I do

I once felt something like this

Jan 22, 2022 at 1:42am

But she gamed me into chasing and proving shit so I backed off and that was that. Meant what I said. C'est la vie

I get that

Jan 23, 2022 at 9:15pm

I worked with a guy and when he came close I would just shake. We got together and it was great - sexually. We were together for about 2 years, then I found out he was also sleeping with just about anyone who'd have him. So I dumped him and I've met better men since, but that crazy attraction has never been there. Too bad.