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I meet a new lady I eventually introduced her to my friends and she gets super fuckin weird and flirty. I’m not even sure what to do any more. I’m not a lying kind of guy but I’m at the point where It might be the best idea. Just lie and say I don’t have any friends and keep those circles separate I guess? I’m really at a loss here

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@I’m really at a loss here

Jan 24, 2022 at 11:56am

If its ok with the moderator of this Straight forum I'll repeat myself with a quote from Carl Jung. Yea I know poster dissed me a while ago as the 'guy who quotes Carl Jung.' However to I this Jung teaching has profoundly helped my life, so here it is again: ................. “An old alchemist gave the following consolation to one of his disciples: “No matter how isolated you are and how lonely you feel, if you do your work truly and conscientiously, unknown friends will come and seek you.” ............... Of course the word 'work' can be taken in different ways. Is it simply talking about what you do to bring in a $ ? Well our occupation is definitely a legit part of our life equation, but I feel our 'work' is also what we do to help those who are suffering, for it is said: "You help yourself through helping others." Walk good Sisters and Brothers

Gerald

Jan 24, 2022 at 12:56pm

Just organize an orgy with the friends...it will all sort itself out.

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Do you mean

Jan 24, 2022 at 1:17pm

a) She escalates the flirting with you in front of your friends to the point where you are embarrassed or b) she starts flirting with your friends?

Typing all that out, I guess both of these interpretations could result in major weirdness. I understand the desire for separate spheres.

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Not

Jan 24, 2022 at 1:58pm

the gal for you

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Anonymous

Jan 24, 2022 at 5:05pm

She's insecure and wants your friends to like her, the only way she knows how. She lacks confidence in herself. Is she smart? If so, then it's sad, if she's a bit dumb, than she's working with what she has. Her "charms."

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When I feel overwhelmed

Jan 24, 2022 at 5:13pm

in social situations, I blush, giggle, have trouble talking,become klutzy. That could be interpreted as flirting. It's not. I'm just an awkward hot mess.

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Jan 24, 2022 at 8:27pm

the guy for her perhaps. Assume she is a bit overwhelmed and nervous. Instead of having a critical eye try having her back and go with the flow. Maybe flirt with her in front of your friends.

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Anonymous

Jan 24, 2022 at 8:32pm

Maybe she’s just being nice and you’re interpreting it as flirting

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@OP

Jan 24, 2022 at 8:36pm

Why bother?
Focus on yourself:education,earning more,investing working out,work harder and smarter etc basically be stacking paper.
I did that and retired at 37,and do whatever I want,wherever I want, and for however long I want.

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You can try communicating

Jan 24, 2022 at 9:14pm

Sometimes people aren't self-aware or don't see the harm in what they're doing. You can tell these lady friends after the fact that you felt uncomfortable and why.

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