It's been a while since I've been on a date. As the pandemic hit I was beaming with self confidence and my social skills were solid for the dating and organic conversation. I have a date with someone I crushed on for a while but have not been on a normal date since pre pandemic. I'm nervous like I was as an insecure teen. With so many shutdowns of businesses and things I would normally get my nerves out with(bars, swimming, matinees, etc) I feel like I am psyching myself out.


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Hey OP

Jan 18, 2022 at 11:41am

Just want to applaud you for putting yourself out there enough to ask someone out. You sound a lot braver than me!

I think we’re all finding our sea legs again when it comes to socializing post 2020. The upside of this is that hopefully we will give each other some grace, as we are all a little rusty.

Wishing you a good date with your crush! Take it light and slow and all will be well.

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Go running to kill stress and nerves

Jan 18, 2022 at 3:47pm

And good luck on your date!

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Go Get 'Em

Jan 18, 2022 at 4:45pm

Just be yourself, have fun, and good luck!

P.S. When I first read your post I was very confused for a bit because I misread "matinees" as "manatees". Honestly if you got to hang out with manatees that would be amazing too!

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Jan 18, 2022 at 5:35pm

"hopefully we will give each other some grace"
My experiences so far, are a resounding NO to that. I'm still not tall/rich/good looking enough- either that or am "too nice".
At least I didn't get my hopes up at all.
Three million years of social evolution won't be going away because of an insignificant bump along the line of history.

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What's the worst that can happen?

Jan 18, 2022 at 6:50pm

Ask yourself this question. So the person doesn't like you. So what? Not everyone in the world will like you. Move on until you find someone who does. I know it's easy to say, but if you just take the attitude that it will take a number of shots before you hit the target, that might make things easier. Good luck.

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Man or woman

Jan 18, 2022 at 7:36pm

Go getum .
A date ! Did you ask her ?
Cause most men are babies, Hey don't hurt my little feelings .
Who's the man ?
Or once again did the woman have to make the first move and ask you out ?
Bla bla

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Go running is a great suggestion

Jan 19, 2022 at 7:12am

Though I use a rebounder because it saves the wear & tear on your joints. Plus I can stay home & avoid public contact.

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A bit of projection mixed with motherly scolding

Jan 19, 2022 at 3:45pm

You were courageous enough to try. You didn't immediately resort to abusing them when they didn't read your mind or things didn't go exactly as planned, for whatever reason, you're already ahead of most living in prisons of their own making. If you don't gaslight them everything will work out the way it's meant to. Don't mess up your chances and attract bad vibes by creating unnecessary drama. Good luck and whatever you do, don't take your nerves out on them. I've had people do that to me, impatient in matters of love, full of ego, no understanding that people have lives, stress and a slew of other things happening they know nothing about. These were men I was interested in; after that low level disrespect and betrayal would never again look fondly at them. It's simple, be good to each other. If it doesn't work out, move on kindly.

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@Man Or Woman

Jan 20, 2022 at 7:35pm

Your last sentence is completely false.
I was in the pub/bar/club management business for 13 years, until very recently and it was a very,very rare event for any woman to approach a man/ask him to dance/buy him a drink etc.

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Jan 21, 2022 at 9:02am

@ projecting. I like the comment. Let them be them, not who they're built up in my head to be.
They asked me to tell a funny story about my clients, instead told them an embarrassing story about me and made the laugh hysterically until they snort laughed. my heart went warm when they did.
neither of us had been on a date in a long time. we're both socially timid. will leave it that as a gs confession.

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