Wrong time

I think I was born in the wrong time. I keep expecting to find people with integrity. People who’s word you can count on. People who admit when they’re wrong and apologize sincerely. But it’s become so increasingly rare that if you find such a person it’s like finding an actual unicorn. It seems like nowadays everyone is only out for themselves and they don’t think twice about screwing over the people in their lives. Even people who claim that they’re a friend or that they love you. I’m becoming totally isolated because I have been hurt far too much for one lifetime. I just want this one to end because I’m tired of being hurt. It’s not in my nature to be “tough” so that other people’s behaviour can’t hurt me. Trust me I know that much because I’ve been around long enough to figure it out. I don’t want to be like that anyway. It disgusts me and I have no respect for them once I see that huge character flaw. I know there’s good people out there but I sure haven’t found any of them around here. I wish there was a meetup group for other unicorns!

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Feels OP

Apr 17, 2022 at 9:25am

You wouldn't happen to be the Am I Wrong? guy would you? (your confession is so close to his) I totally agree that it's important that people keep their word, but not that Everyone is only out for themselves. Yes, there are definitely people who seem to be and at times it can feel like everyone you meet is like that. It can especially seem that way when you are expecting it to be that way. But from my experience (& i don't believe I'm "lucky") most people are decent. Look at all the people helping last year during the floods, heat dome, fires, etc. And there were lots more who sent money in to help.
Maybe some of the people who seem to just be out for themselves are people who equate having lots of money with security and think that that will protect them when the climate change shit hits the fan. But it won't, and we need to work together if we want to survive.

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Anonymous

Apr 17, 2022 at 9:35am

I wish I was born in 1969

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M&M

Apr 17, 2022 at 9:52am

I like your post. I thought I was the only one feeling that way and I still believe there are some good people out there.
So don't give up quite yet on people cause as I am finding out life is full of surprises.
Good Surprises .
Man I hope so :)
Unicorns. Lol funny
Horrible sentence structure that's right !

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Time is relative

Apr 17, 2022 at 12:06pm

or even as quantum science is now revealing, it is not lineal but inter-dimensional. So perhaps where we are now, or where we think we are, is simply a test or a station along the way. My suggestion: Its legit to set your boundaries and take no sh*t from bozos; but also grin and bear it; and always simply try your best to leave situations better than how you found them when you arrived.

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Love yourself

Apr 17, 2022 at 1:16pm

I have felt this many times, have found patterns of friends I would give a kidney for breaking my heart. In the end for me, I find peace in knowing that I often had little signs along the way letting me know that I was being passive or didn’t feel good about things. Also, I can work on my assertive and communication skills, and that as human beings we are inherently imperfect, and project a lot of our issues and feelings on others. Compassion is the only way. Having compassion for others (wow, being so threatened you feel like apologizing will kill you must be a hard way to move through the world). Compassion for yourself- it stings when people disappoint! Compassion for what it means to live in a time where everything moves so fast and we’re always expected to be on, and communication skills are waning. Hope you find what you need.

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What Do You Expect

Apr 17, 2022 at 2:20pm

From a place that's in the top 2 most expensive places to live in N America?
If you want any change, go south- anywhere south.

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Response

Apr 17, 2022 at 4:29pm

It definitely isn’t a nice feeling being let down by people. There are good people and bad people around. However, When I look at the way people used to live in the old days, I don’t believe that they were any nicer or more trustworthy back then. Try to focus on the friends and family you have who are kind and generous and dependable. Be kind to them too, and appreciate them.

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Well okay…

Apr 17, 2022 at 6:20pm

I was born in 1953, so I guess I’m just expecting something from people that isn’t as common now. Some of my old friends and most of my family have passed. The ones who are left are flaky as hell, and will pass you up the minute something better comes along. They don’t seem to have any qualms about it either, and they accuse me of being too sensitive. No I’m not the guy who wrote that post because I’m not a guy I’m a woman. I’m just sick of people without any integrity! It’s like an old fashioned thing now and if you expect it you’ll be called wussy or something. I just want to find people with some honour who you can trust to do what they say. I know not everyone is like this but since so many people seem to think it’s not a big deal I feel like it’s becoming acceptable to be this way. I’m definitely in the wrong time and it’s time I joined my friends.

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Understand

Apr 18, 2022 at 1:42pm

how you feel. I found learning how to set boundaries for myself really helped me in dealing with people. There ARE good people out there. I encourage you to keep trying and let go of the flakes.

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It's Just

Apr 18, 2022 at 7:25pm

I find a lot of times we get islanded amid the sea of apathy.

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