Giving up

Far too many times in my life I’ve been treated as if I’m disposable or not good enough. I’m sure it goes all the way back to infancy, so I’m not going to get into all that. But I’m old now and although it’s taken me all this time to figure out the patterns I’ve endlessly repeated, I finally have. So I’ve given up on trying with those types. I realize that for some people in my life, nothing I do is ever going to be enough. They will never be satisfied. They will continue to set that “good enough” bar higher and higher. So even though my love doesn’t end, my efforts to please them will. I’m so sad but I feel a sense of relief too.

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Take care of yourself

May 11, 2022 at 11:15pm

If nobody sees you for who you really are, fuck them. Who needs their validation.

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Sentimental case of crazy

May 12, 2022 at 12:49am

I'll have a little mustard on mine thank you Captain.

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Goalposts

May 12, 2022 at 6:43am

Great resolution, and I hope it sticks. When you give people the power to mete out approval, they will run with it, and lord it over you to bolster their own self-worth. Best not to engage and to derive your self-worth from within. Make it about you, and remove their power over you.

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Disagree Goalposts

May 12, 2022 at 6:06pm

I'll admit I've been the typical people-pleasing woman, but I sure wouldn't say everyone ran with it and lorded it over me. A couple ex bfs sure, but most people have been kind.

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