It sounds like you are still grieving, and my heart goes out to you. It’s great that you’ve got your husband, but we all need other relationships besides our partners, in order to not overwhelm them with our emotional needs. Maybe you didn’t develop the skills you needed to gain and keep friends because you spent so much time with your mother instead? I’ve known a couple of other women like that who didn’t have a normal mother-daughter relationship because they were like besties instead. I mean, it’s nice to be close to your kids, but I’m not sure that it’s healthy for the child to depend so much on their parent for companionship that they don’t learn how to develop those other relationships. It’s hard to make close friends when you’re older because everyone is so busy with their own lives and families, etc. It’s also pretty common nowadays for people to be really unreliable and flaky like you’re describing. I’m sure you know all the usual suggestions about joining groups with people who enjoy similar hobbies or pastimes as you, so maybe this is what you should be concentrating on in order to fix your conundrum. And remember that grieving a lost relationship isn’t a static thing, because it comes in waves when you’ll find yourself overcome by it. Even years later. My own mother lost her mom when she was 40, and she recently told me that she’s still not over it, although it’s been 50 years since it happened. So be kind to yourself, and keep trying to break out of your comfort zone when it comes to forging new relationships.

You’ve moved forward a lot in your life and have a loving husband and dog. And yes, no one can take your mother’s place as no one will ever love you more than your mom did. I can’t remember where I read this but someone suggested talking to your mom and telling her you love her every day, even though she’s no longer physically present, can help. My moms getting older and I sometimes think about how we will all feel when she passes through to the Other Side. Perhaps we have a hard time finding our mother’s quality love from friends but we could provide quality love to others (living beings and community). Sending a hug to you.

I have a very similar story...lost my mom, my best friend coming up 9 yrs ago this year. It still hurts like crazy. Life certainly has not felt the same without her in it. The unconditional Love is so missing. Unlike you, I do not have a husband or dog, so it has been a tough ride. Hang on tight to your partner and feel blessed to have him. It has been a very lonely road!

No such thing in spite of what people may tell you. All you do is learn to live with the grief and the loss. Never expect to get over it. Won't happen. Once you have this understanding, things get easier.

I'm so sorry for your loss. My heartfelt condolences

To so many people too. It's terrible but what can you do? We don't choose our fate

There is no point. California is burning. And Hollywood North will be no different.

Not true for everyone. My dad died in 2007, mom in 2012 and they rarely even cross my mind-like I'm talking maybe a couple times a year.

I don’t know how I will cope when my Mom passes
She is 80
It’s true , no one will ever love us as much as our Mommas did.