I don’t care but young women should

My spouse is having an affair with a co-worker 25yrs younger than him. Decades ago we both had our pick of mates. We chose each other and I just don’t know why anymore. I’m too wise and zen now to care about his void he cannot fill. I don’t really care about what’s going on, it’s not about me. But I want to warn young women out there , don’t get involved with men in midlife crisis. You’re hurting yourself and why? Learn to love yourselves so you don’t have to find yourself in this kind of desperate relationshituation. You may have been told some kind of back-story, but what you are doing is wrong. Check-in with yourself, be kind to yourself and others. Two wrongs don’t make a right partnership.

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The school of life

Jun 22, 2022 at 4:40am

Maybe there's no such thing as a midlife crisis, just a new chapter in a person's life? Hint, hint… A relationship doesn't have to be forever.

A physicist, an engineer and a mathematician were discussing their love lives.

The physicist said: "It's a good idea I'm intelligent, because it means I can remember the lies I tell my wife when I'm off with my mistress. She knows no different."

The engineer said, "I just tell the wife that I have an old boiler to maintain, and off I go with my mistress. She knows no different."

The mathematician said, "Both my wife and my mistress know about each other. No worries. Each of them thinks I'm with the other, whereas in fact I'm sitting on my own in a room getting some math done."

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What she thinks

Jun 22, 2022 at 5:21am

She thinks she’s different. She thinks it’s your fault that he’s unhappy and therefore she’s helping him because you’re so awful. He’s manipulating her because she’s young and naïve enough to believe his bullshit. Personally I think think anyone who knowingly gets involved with someone who is already in a relationship is not only dumb but also lacks integrity. All they care about is getting their own needs met and they don’t care about how it affects the other person or their family. It’s sleazy behaviour and I don’t have any sympathy for them when that relationship falls apart. I watched my father cheat on my mother over and over again. I got to live with the effects of her being continually heartbroken to the point where she was in tears most of the time for my entire childhood. She was so sad and preoccupied with his behaviour that she didn’t have anything left for my sisters and me. Infidelity affects everyone connected to that person, not just the two people in the marriage or relationship. The cheaters are usually totally lacking in true self esteem so they try to bolster their fragile egos with attention from other people. I know a couple of people like this (men and women both) and this lack of integrity shows up in every other part of their lives too.

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Agreed

Jun 22, 2022 at 5:51am

suckered. older man paying attention to witless thing. faux love. sad.

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I think

Jun 22, 2022 at 6:17am

You're jealous.

Kick him out

Jun 22, 2022 at 6:45am

You can tell your marriage is on the rocks when you know that your spouse is obviously cheating on you. If you were looking for a man that’s actually serious and committed, you picked the wrong person. I’d file for divorce and throw him out if I were you.

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Sorry this is happening

Jun 22, 2022 at 7:35am

Many many moons ago I was involved briefly with a married man. Okay, many a couple times, and you have hit the nail on the head. In this type of relationship both parties have got into it because they have other issues.

For me it was because I was empty and looking for something, I didn't know what, but having sexual power over and older man felt amazing.
It wasn't really about them at all, and I never was so delusional to think that it was more than it actually was. I'm happy to hear you are wise and zen now. So am I and when I see older people out having affairs, well it's just sad now because I think, what is the REAL problem?

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Good thinking and good words

Jun 22, 2022 at 11:59am

Thank you. We need real people more like you to stop our society from swirling down the drain.

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What does age have to do with it?

Jun 22, 2022 at 2:09pm

Your post sounds as though it's meant to be inspiring to young women saying they should learn to love themselves but then you go on to say you don't care what's going on after being treated horribly in your partnership, deciding to stay, implying you don't care the least about yourself. Why not take your own advice?

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So why

Jun 22, 2022 at 3:19pm

Do you blame the other woman having the sex with your husband? Shouldn’t you be asking these questions to the partner you picked to be with? She most likely thinks your separated and isn’t bothered by the lies he’s telling. I’d kick him out and find peace somewhere new. Good luck to you

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Asian Ladies

Jun 22, 2022 at 6:26pm

Are not so forgiving. We have been known to cut off dicks of cheating spouses.

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