Melancholy tranquility

I've been reflecting on relationships these days. I'm not in one and I'm coming to terms with the realization that I won't ever be in one. As I age out of the era of one-night stands (which sucks because sex is awesome), I am okay to be single. While I like the idea of love, I am not sure whether I'm built for the compromises that demand it. And I like my own bed to myself as I'm a light sleeper. Occasionally, I'm a bit sad that it wasn't in the cards for me. There was a time where I really thought it might be possible, but I couldn't find anyone fearless enough to fight for being together. Nobody thought I was worth the effort, I suppose. That is what is sad.

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Uh uh

Jun 30, 2022 at 1:19pm

We humans are not created to be solitary creatures. Please don't give up because there is the partner out there for you who is also crying the same song as you. There is a way to learn to turn on your Universal radar and call in what you need. PS: Those special helpers who help us learn to help ourselves do not advertise and do not charge $$ for their help.

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Ugh

Jun 30, 2022 at 2:37pm

Unlikely it's everyone you've ever been with not making the effort. The common denominator in all these relationships is you. What are you doing to keep people from wanting long term connection with you? The way you describe yourself, it really sounds like you have chased everyone away by insisting they bend to your will since you won't compromise. You are not a protagonist, and partners aren't your side kicks. Any successful relationship requires a lot of give and take from both parties, so no wonder you are single.

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Anonymous

Jun 30, 2022 at 2:41pm

As someone that has been in two long term relationships, I suspect you would be where you are now, after being in a long term relationship and enjoying being single, I know I am. Some people are just independent. Lucky you for not having to go through a nasty breakup.

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Two words....

Jul 1, 2022 at 1:41pm

sex robot.

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@ugh

Jul 2, 2022 at 3:39am

Only been in a few relationships. And your indignation is repulsive. I made a few bad choices due to my lack of self esteem. That's all.
What's your excuse?

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@Ugh

Jul 2, 2022 at 4:22am

Not necessarily. Just because someone has had relationships that ended doesn’t mean they did something wrong. Relationships are complicated and people come in and out of our lives all the time. It’s normal. As another independent person who is presently single I feel similar to the Op. I’m just not sure that I’m meant for cohabiting full time with anyone, because in my experience as a woman the men I’ve had long term relationships with have had expectations of me that I wasn’t okay with. They weren’t looking for a partner as much as they were a caretaker. They wanted me to look good on their arm and in their bed, and also do everything that their mothers did for them too at the same time. All while I was supporting my end financially. I wasn’t looking to be taken care of because I’m capable of doing that for myself. I wanted a partner to share my life with, where he wanted me as much for who I am as a person as for how I look or what I can do for him. I’ve yet to meet a man like that and unless I do I’ll be single for the rest of my life.

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