Middle Kid Syndrome

I recently found out that I am not the eldest of two children, but the middle child of three. My mother had an abortion before I was born. I’m only here because my dad wanted to have children and told my mother he would divorce her if she had another abortion. I feel like this explains my childhood and really my whole life.


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All My Relations. A primary Indigenous teaching

Jun 2, 2022 at 5:59pm

Where were we before we came into this World? Why are we here and where do we go next? This World dimension is a school and we are here to learn to try hard and become a better human being. OCM Sto'Lo salutations.

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I’m sorry, what?

Jun 2, 2022 at 7:23pm

You are not the second of 3 children. Your mother elected to terminate a pregnancy before you were ever conceived. So you are the first BORN. Your father had zero right to tell you what he did. That was entirely your mother’s business to share or not, and obviously she chose not to, which is her right since it was HER body. You should probably ask yourself why your father told you that in the first place. It doesn’t take a psychic to see that he wanted to poison her in your mind. Disgusting behaviour on his part.

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Jun 2, 2022 at 10:23pm

I've been thinking a lot lately about people brought into this world against their will. While America is still debating abortion, so few people are discussing antinatalism. Your mother was forced to bring you into this world, and now you're having an existential crisis, due to your parent's decision. I find it astonishing that a couple or a person can just bring a person into this world because they feel it's their right, because it's something we've always done. When is this discussion going to go mainstream, because It's absolutely crazy that it's not.

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I feel for you

Jun 2, 2022 at 10:38pm

I know many people who are happy that were not aborted. And almost none that wished they were.

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Jun 3, 2022 at 6:43am

I feel for your parents, particularly your mother and of course you and your siblings. Why did your father keep impregnating your mother if this is how she felt? That decision is a two way street. No judgement here on your situation but women for the most part bear the full weight and responsibility of bearing children and the overall subjugation that comes with it. I can only imagine the under currents of resentment your mother may have held. What a terrible choice to have to make, have children or alternately a divorce. Something similar happened to me with my ex. That's why he's an ex, he was trying to make me have a third child against my will. I drove myself to the hospital to have my tubes tied which was the right decision for me. Nonetheless, we move on in this complex world we live in and try to live life in the fullest positive manner possible. Peace.

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Jun 3, 2022 at 7:13am

you dont get to call yourself a middle child.

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@All my

Jun 3, 2022 at 8:30am

So where do we go next then ?
Cause I'm ready to go right now !
So Ready.

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You are *

Jun 3, 2022 at 8:41am

The eldest of two children.

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Jun 3, 2022 at 11:46am

Can relate. Where I first found life was once a place of death. It makes me extremely sad. Pro-life or pro-choice -- take several seats & downvote all you like. There are some seriously sad cases here who live to downvote people's true feelings and true stories. My feelings are mine and are valid.

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pandemonium jones

Jun 3, 2022 at 3:10pm

this should not change your whole life --- you are not a middle child. you have no relationship to a sibling that never was. you are not the central figure in this tempest in a tea cup.get over yourself.

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