My mom...

... has started throwing things at me. I am disabled, live at home for economic reasons. I have dealt with a father who was physically abusive as well as an abusive brother who ended up dying in his 20s due to drug abuse. I recognize the pattern---she has escalated to throwing objects. if I go through any of these "domestic abuse" pamphlets the Government prints and substitute "mom" for "spouse" and "child" for "spouse" it is literally what she is doing to me and has done for much of my life. Historically she would, like, poke me in the chest, tell me she wanted to knock my head off. I just don't know how much more of this I can take, and there is zero support. I literally just need a few hundred more dollars a month from the ministry, and I can move out. She displays zero insight into her condition, as was the case for my father and brother. father was physically abused by his adoptive father, doesn't understand you can't strike someone because you dislike their conduct. Brother was socialized to believe he was allowed to strike me because "I'm the bigger one." I just want off this ride. It's so horrible.

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Jun 13, 2022 at 7:46pm

should talk to a Lawyer.

Kipawa Harder

Jun 13, 2022 at 10:09pm

Have you exhausted all routes with social services? Do you qualify for a disability pension? I would contact social services. Perhaps they know of an organization that would be able to help you come up with the additional funds you need to move out. Take care.

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Anonymous

Jun 14, 2022 at 9:16am

Call the police and they will remove you from such a horrific environment !
No one should be allowed to treat you in such a nasty manner.
There are places to go for youth and they will help you get your own place too.
I am so sorry this is happening to you and your mom is so messed up to display such abusive behavior towards her own child.
Call the police next time she acts out and trys to hurt you.
Don't be afraid anymore !
You can do this !!

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Awful

Jun 15, 2022 at 6:28am

That’s truly awful and I’m so sorry to hear that you’re being abused in this way. You don’t mention the nature of your disability so it’s impossible for any of us in this site to know exactly what to tell you. However, if you can post this then you have the ability to reach out for help by contacting the police or social services. Obviously you’re not in a safe place and should be moved. Your Mom needs help as well and maybe this would be a wake-up call for her to get it. I know that it’s a really hard thing to do but you need to protect yourself before the abuse escalates.

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My mom…

Jun 15, 2022 at 10:04am

Off the meds is Kanye West. She’s awesome.

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Hope and help

Jun 15, 2022 at 12:56pm

Good advice by Anonymous but a very recent experience showed me they don't always help. I have to apply for a peace bond myself however I would still start by calling the police.
Don't take this crap, you don't deserve it. There is support if you push for it but under the circumstances I'd consider this an emergency. You will need to document. Wouldn't hurt to record if you can do discreetly even just audio. Good luck and please let us know you are ok as you go. People care.

Resources:
https://www2.gov.bc.ca/gov/content/justice/criminal-justice/bcs-criminal...
There is the Lawyer Referral Service - free 1/2 hour consultation.
There is legal aid for low income - https://legalaid.bc.ca/
For people in bad situations: https://www2.gov.bc.ca/gov/content/justice/criminal-justice/bcs-criminal...

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Hey op

Jun 19, 2022 at 6:36pm

I know it seems like you're trapped right now. If I were you, I'd be despairing right about now. And it's very difficult to form a plan or to have hope when you're feeling that low and that trapped. Imagine what it would feel like to wake up one morning and your mother doesn't live with you. She lives across town. You feel light, you feel free, you feel open to new possibilities. It is so important for you to get out of there. You have to form a plan to do so. Start planning for better tomorrows. Things are bad right now I get it, but until you reach out for help, things will stay bad day in and day out. You deserve better and I hope you reach for it. Good luck.

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