Sigh

I was unemployed for the past 8 months or so. I never tried dating as I figured no one wants to date a jobless person considering the first question everyone here has is: what do you do for work?!?!? Now i am working, making good money and im so exhausted all the time i dont even have the energy to chat on Tinder. Lol. Oh well. Whatever.

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Thoreau

Jun 3, 2022 at 3:48pm

Welfare brothers make better lovers.

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Girls be like

Jun 3, 2022 at 4:44pm

Is your job your passion or just paying the bills?

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Typical

Jun 3, 2022 at 5:46pm

of Vancouverites to ask this. In many places NO ONE would ever ask about your job, thats the LAST thing they would ask. That is really really cringe and embarrassing and you shouldn't be dating these people.

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@OP

Jun 3, 2022 at 6:21pm

If you are a woman, looking for a guy- few of us will even care if you are in between jobs.

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working but...

Jun 3, 2022 at 8:18pm

it's an unavoidable question, why avoid it?
no shame in not having a job or if ur not into ur job.
how would the financially comfortable describe their "job" anyways?

more importantly, how do you ride over it so it no longer matters to you and hopefully, your potential special someone.
be the first to not jump to conclusion, they'll show themselves soon enough...
more importantly to separate "not working" from "I have debt and it could be an issue".

thoughts, anyone?

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@ @OP 6:21p

Jun 3, 2022 at 11:08pm

As a woman i can vouch that a lot of guys DO care whether we're employed when it comes to dating and relationships.

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@Thoreau

Jun 4, 2022 at 12:52am

Because they're always well rested?

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Damn you have a job nice

Jun 4, 2022 at 6:17am

Will you be my sugar daddy ?
Lol
Bahaha
Joking
Bahaha :)

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@Typical

Jun 4, 2022 at 7:53am

A friend of mine who lived abroad in the UK was telling me this same thing: people there are more skilled in the art of conversation to the extent where they know never to lead with "what do you do?"

Another acquaintance used to ask, "what are you up to these days?" because they believed asking directly about one's occupation is inherently classist.

I agree that inquiring about people's jobs is cringe and causes a lot of unnecessary social anxiety within those of us who have received judgmental jabs in previous conversations and feel that we don't measure up to some distorted and ever-changing bar. We need to move toward a different model of conversation.

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Bought a house and..

Jun 4, 2022 at 12:30pm

gained over 1 million in equity for contributing nothing over the past 30 years.
Kidding.
I work as a geologist (35 years old). I will never own a home in Calgary

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