When someone you loved wholeheartedly for decades discards you like you are trash and your time together meant nothing, it’s hard to carry on as if everything is okay. Even if your brain tells you that you should just move on, it’s not that simple or that easy. So please forgive me all of you who are impatient for my recovery. I’m grieving something I thought I had. I’m in a state of shock still. I’m lost because I don’t even know who I am anymore after so many years of trying to be that person who would finally be good enough. It took me 20 years to get to this place and I’m going to take whatever time I have to, to get out of it.


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Aug 10, 2022 at 1:20am

I'm sorry you're struggling.. take the time you need and know you're not alone. Sending love and healing to you

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I get it!

Aug 10, 2022 at 7:44am

That happened to me just before the pandemic. Someone I thought had my back really messed my life up, and didn't really care. It's mid 2022 and its taken this long to get over it. But never again will I care for someone like that, what a fool I was.

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Good plan to take it slow

Aug 10, 2022 at 8:02am

It’s important to work at your own pace when healing from betrayal trauma. There are a lot of layers to process and the only way out is through.

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Aug 10, 2022 at 9:10am

Time Heals…

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Buen Camino

Aug 10, 2022 at 9:49am

Give yourself time, it will come, it just takes time.
I have been there and the silver lining was to see how strong you are, reveals who are your true friends are. Get a pet to take your mind off it, join a support group and be with those who don't get tired of hearing your woes over and over. One day you'll see it was the best thing that could happen to you because you should never be with someone that doesn't want to be with you. Sending loads of vibes your way <3

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You really shouldn't be surprised, you should be worried

Aug 10, 2022 at 10:31am

Loving someone wholeheartedly means you don't cheat on them repeatedly, you don't transfer their money out of their accounts into your secret account nor is it telling lies to their children.

Karma is a bitch and isn't finished with you.

You are experiencing a world of hurt in this hurting World

Aug 10, 2022 at 11:16am

because we so much need a sense of family and community; but that bozo probably did you a favour by exposing his real ugly to you. And now you will be able to go forward to something better. When one door closes another door always opens.

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Aug 10, 2022 at 6:42pm

You will need time. Time gives a person persepective. Right now you sound like you are in shock.

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Been there

Aug 10, 2022 at 7:59pm

It’s super traumatic. It’s been 12 years since this happened to me and I’m here to tell you: you can survive and thrive. Get help if you need it. <3

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Really M

Aug 11, 2022 at 3:20am

Deprograming yourself can take some time,
And you need to believe in yourself again !
Things become so much clearer after you are away from a nasty person who never had your best interests at heart only their hands in your pocketbook.
Their are all kinds of nasty, horrible people in this world, it's quite sad really the lengths some will go too in getting what they want.
Sad !
I still think their are good hearted people still out there somewhere but they are so hard to find !
Not that I'm looking :) :)

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