Forgiveness

7 years ago I met him, we fell in love quickly. Talked about the future. Then he completely ghosted me. Just disappeared. Gone from social media, changed his phone number. Now 7 years later he has reappeared. Married with a pregnant wife. He says he doesn't want anything, just needs my forgiveness. I'm not sure I can do that. I don't think he can even comprehend the level of hurt he inflicted.

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Anonymous

Aug 31, 2022 at 7:27am

Forgiveness is highly overrated. He hasn't earned it.

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His feelings

Aug 31, 2022 at 8:38am

The forgiveness is about HIS feelings. Not yours. He wants to feel less guilty. Remember he discarded you 7 years ago without a trace. That says it all.

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Believe me…

Aug 31, 2022 at 9:35am

I understand.
That type of hurt is like an ice pick through the heart over and over and never really heals…the best thing you can do for your own soul is to forgive him. Holding that much pain does so much harm to your body, mind and soul.
Forgiving him really helps to release your soul from this hell…there are no magic solutions… you have to walk through a bit more pain to find peace… Namaste

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Nah buddy

Aug 31, 2022 at 9:53am

You don’t owe this guy your forgiveness. Sounds like a block and delete situation tbh.

It’s shitty, but more often than not we’ve got to grieve these people solo and work toward finding our own peace, as they will just lead us in endless circles if they remain in our lives.

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To err is human

Aug 31, 2022 at 10:22am

But, Forgiveness is divine. I've found in my life I've helped myself by helping others. Sure it isn't always easy but an Indigenous teaching is found in the mantra 'Try Hard' in life. OCM Sto'lo Coast Salish salutations

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Who cares what he needs?

Aug 31, 2022 at 12:37pm

Ghost him. Stop any contact. That's likely doing the best for you.

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Malicious twisters

Aug 31, 2022 at 3:58pm

Will blow a candle or two.
Just remember this:
You can go back...
Back where St. Sigmund would have you
To turn yet another screw

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Anonymous

Aug 31, 2022 at 5:57pm

He was no good to you before.

He will be no good to you every time.

He's a bum. Forget him.

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Noooooo

Aug 31, 2022 at 6:55pm

You don’t owe forgiveness to someone who screwed you over so severely, unless it will help YOU.

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I can relate

Sep 1, 2022 at 3:32am

I’m so tired of hearing people preach that forgiveness is necessary because it’s for ourselves. No! Sometimes it’s refusing to forgive someone that saves you from ever repeating the same things that got you into a relationship with someone like that in the first place. I’m a VERY forgiving person for the most part, but there are two people who will never get my forgiveness and I’m just fine with that. This guy did something so despicable to you. You’re under no obligation whatsoever to forgive him for it. I feel sorry for this new woman he’s with because anyone who could do that to another person has something very important missing inside them. Ultimately you dodged a bullet.

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