I left before the parade started

I'm middle-aged was transitioning a few year to female but stopped as people thought I was a cross dresser even in the gay community I was thought & seen as a crossdresser not as a transwoman....so I stopped, since then I have identified as non-binary/gender nonconforming, yet still seen and referred to as "dude, buddy. sir" etc even though I try to ask to be seen as non-binary...... anyway today I went to check out the Pride Parade & left before it started....I have no friends, no connections with people in the community & when i saw people with their friends, family, girlfriends/, boyfriends/partners I felt like shit, these events are great if you have people to meet there or go with, not when you go by yourself...& no I don't happen to meet people there...it's been like this all the times I go....I don't want to go up to someone & introduce myself....that's creepy.....I don't identify as a cis male, I don't identify as a gay man....I don't know maybe I'm too alternative or something & Pride is just too mainstream....I don't know....I don't know what's wrong with me:(


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Aug 1, 2022 at 8:12am

There is nothing wrong with you. Perhaps seek out counseling to help you reset your compass. You will be fine. A diamond in the rough so to speak.

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Aug 1, 2022 at 8:56am

hugs. that's a hard feeling

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Sweet Pea

Aug 1, 2022 at 2:38pm

Nothing is wrong with you and I’m sending you a BIG hug. I have felt similar. Different background and story, but I am non binary, and I had a huge community where I lived before but not in Vancouver. It can feel lonely. I’ve thought of volunteering in a queer specific organization, but I have yet to find good ways to get involved. Maybe look into something community specific like a queer league of some sort. Just know you’re perfect the way you are.

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Free advice

Aug 2, 2022 at 10:13am

Free advice is by definition not worth anything, and I certainly have no NB lived experience. But I have lived many days, some terrible, some good. And I want to tell you you're on the right hunch here. It's not so much that people don't know your pronouns, the big problem is that people don't know you, period. You have to get to where the people are and start talking to them. Some will be on your wavelength, or close enough for conversation. That's what you need. Someone who knows your story, where you're from, what kind of ice cream you like, and heck, maybe even your pronouns! Good luck neighbour.

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Aug 2, 2022 at 12:27pm

sex bot from Japan ?

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Nothing [J]

Aug 2, 2022 at 2:45pm

Everyone else has better advice than I do, but it's worth repeating: nothing is wrong with you.

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Dan Petter

Aug 2, 2022 at 5:24pm

Or maybe you're a gay dude & won't admit it sweetie.

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Aug 2, 2022 at 6:53pm

It's called gender dysphoria

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Aug 2, 2022 at 9:10pm

If you look like a man they are never going to accept you any other way unless they're patronising you.

That's as they call "the way it is".

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Aug 4, 2022 at 8:08pm


That is all.

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