It’ll be okay

Amy I a shitty person for liking a guy who has a girlfriend? I would never do anything about it, as it seems like they have a great relationship. I saw him the other day unexpectedly and realized I still liked him. If we’re meant to be in the future that would be nice. If not, that’s okay too. I’m happy for them. Mostly!

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Right

Sep 25, 2022 at 7:28am

If you can't be honest with yourself who can you be honest with?

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Everyone are prudes

Sep 25, 2022 at 12:27pm

I have no idea why this was downvoted so much? You can’t help who you like for the most part. It’s mostly pheromones and things we can’t see! Having a crush is fun, enjoy it, and still wish the happy couple well from afar.

Depends

Sep 25, 2022 at 5:17pm

If you’re hiding it well then sure. But if you’re one of those people who openly lets that person who’s already attached know that you’re an available option, then no, it’s not okay. I’ve seen this crap so many times and every time I do I have no respect for someone who tries to grab someone else’s partner. Back right off. If they break up without any influence from you, then fine, but otherwise, absolutely not.

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Keywords

Sep 25, 2022 at 5:48pm

“I would never do anything about it.”

It’s natural to have attractions to people, whether or not they are partnered. You’re not doing anything wrong at this point, and it’s not like you can turn lust off like a light.

Just keep your feelings within the confines of your fantasies, accept the situation as it is, and see what happens. Many scenarios are possible: the fire dies down over time, you meet someone else, or he eventually becomes available.

Yes you are

Sep 25, 2022 at 7:05pm

In my supremely un-esteemed opinion. (I kid) In all seriousness I don't see how anyone finds taken/in a relationship/married persons attractive. I guess it floats some boats. For me, I would be ecstatic for them and, if I had residual unreciprocated feelings, ecstatic for me too, final nail in the coffin to moving on. You're right, it will be. Be proud you're not another home-wrecker, waiting or wedging chaos into a taken person's life. The world keeps spinning, move on to your own happiness, he already has.

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Anonymous

Sep 25, 2022 at 9:06pm

I think that makes you a GREAT person, personally. You're at the same time full of love to love him, but in a genuine way so also respectful of their relationship and want it to succeed for his sake. Good on you, god bless. We need more people in the world like you

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Go steal him

Sep 25, 2022 at 9:47pm

Who cares who you hurt. It's all about you.

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“Stealing”

Sep 26, 2022 at 2:42pm

Unless it’s kidnapping, no one gets “stolen.”

OP - feel your feelings but unless you’re a teenager you know how this goes. Sexual attraction is neurochemical and has a shelf life, maybe two months of pining. Then it fades. Keep your eyes and hands to yourself and it’s done in a short amount of time.

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Signs of a good confession

Sep 26, 2022 at 6:56pm

OP is being vulnerable and sparking interesting debate in the comments.

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