Party of one

If you’ve never been responsible for another human being’s safety and care I think it affects how you interact in the world. The people I know who never had kids or had to take care of another person seem really different than the ones who did. Something about having to put your own wants and needs aside because you’re responsible for someone else definitely changes a person. The people I know who are my age (around 70) who have lived their whole lives only being responsible for themselves just can’t relate to what it’s like to have so many other obligations. They get frustrated and upset because they don’t understand why family stuff interferes with plans for things I might want to do. It’s tedious trying to explain why family illness or crises have to take precedence over a social event or something like that. They’re so used to only having to consider themselves that they just can’t understand what it’s like not to have that option. Like they never had to be responsible to pay for raising a child and take care of them no matter what you might have wanted to do instead. I’m not saying that everyone who didn’t have kids is awful or anything just that we’re not on the same wavelength a lot.

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How somebody can downvote this wonderful post

Sep 23, 2022 at 3:00pm

is beyond me. It is a very insightful comment on the human condition. Downvoters suggest you eat healthy, have a good b.m. and take a walk in Mother Nature.

C'est La Vie Mon Ami.

Sep 23, 2022 at 3:12pm

I’ve never had children, but now at the age where I'm starting to care for my parents. I view the period where I had no one to care for as the best years of my life with International travel, and living abroad. I get it, I had my run, and now I have to do something for another person. If I could do it all over again, I would. My regret is that I didn't leave Canada sooner.

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This is beyond silly

Sep 23, 2022 at 3:26pm

The amount of divorce and parents who use their kids against each other is literally the most common thing in North America. I would type further, but what is the point?

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Mid life crisis 2.0

Sep 23, 2022 at 3:27pm

The amount of "parents" I know who have tossed their kids under the bus with social media toxicity is... well all of them?

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I'm addict

Sep 23, 2022 at 3:32pm

I'm also abusive according to every ex. Getting my next girl pregnant is what you are suggesting will make me less awful? Awesome.

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Not having to be…

Sep 23, 2022 at 5:03pm

Responsible for anyone and having more “me” time is the only perk from this lifestyle… if it was my choice I’d be in the thick of family responsibility with a bucket load of kids..but that’s not how my life turned out.

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Not silly, actually inspiring

Sep 23, 2022 at 7:19pm

If more people put their family first and made the sacrifices required, we wouldn’t all be living in the societal shit-show we’re seeing now. And it is not easy. Taking responsibility for your choices (and with kids it’s for a lifetime) is admirable.
Nothing in this post takes away from anyone else, their choices or experiences. it only explains a parent’s perspective, so if you feel you have to comment against it, you might want to ask yourself why you are doing that.

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Hahaha

Sep 23, 2022 at 7:25pm

It’s funny to read some of these responses that are perfect examples of what I’m talking about. Like they didn’t bother to read what I really said. I didn’t say that everyone should have kids or that all parents are great or anything at all like that. Just that the people who haven’t experienced what it means to be completely responsible for someone else’s wellbeing are different than those of us who have. That’s all I said. But you people who immediately jumped to whining like you’re being attacked (or like you’re a little kid) have made my point. Different. Definitely.

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What a

Sep 23, 2022 at 8:23pm

Crock of shit. You made this choice, and that’s fine. But lay off single people. I have no problem with kids or people who have them, but this superiority complex is absurd.

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Should we just go ahead

Sep 23, 2022 at 8:44pm

And rename this forum “Complaints”?

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