Just because I forgive you doesn't mean you get me back

Been seeing a lot of pearl-clutching and desperate posts by ageing parents on various comment platforms recently. They're usually something along the lines of "children should always respect their parents" or "your parents did they best they could" or "nobody's perfect" or "the past is the past". I think they're saying these things because they're realizing there is a huge cohort of abused adult children who are cutting out toxicity in their lives, and they're part of what's gonna be hauled to the emotional dump. Chickens always come home to roost.

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Your a very toxic comment.

Nov 22, 2022 at 10:07pm

I am assuming toxic comments come from toxic people.

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Not again

Nov 26, 2022 at 7:48pm

Have you noticed that it’s pretty much all people under the age of 45 who constantly whine about how awful their parents were? As if they’re the only people who had to deal with parents who weren’t the perfect ones we all wish we had. The reality is that it’s just life kiddies. I don’t know anyone who had a perfect childhood but somehow most of us are managing to survive in spite of it. Some of us even understand why our parents weren’t perfect and we love them in spite of the bad stuff they did because they didn’t know better at the time. So unless your parents truly were absolutely terrible and abusive, grow up and stop blaming everything on them. You’re an adult now so it’s up to you. Telling everyone that you’re cutting off your family because they were “toxic” is so tedious.

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Dec 6, 2022 at 4:07pm

No family I know is 'perfect' - but when parents have been physically and emotionally abusive, or have literally abandoned you, a child owes them nothing.

I've sacrificed enough of my life being an emotional dumping ground by parents who either literally told me they wished they aborted me, used me as a punching bag, or abandoned me. My post was for adult children who have been raised by violent abusers. You don't owe your parents one goddamned thing.

You wouldn't tell an abused man or woman in a relationship to suck it up because the other person "didn't know any better." If you would, you're the one with bigger issues, and should go kick rocks.

Peace!

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