The “perfect”partner

I feel people have insane expectations these days when it comes to partners. My roommate just was ranting about her latest Tinder date. How he doesnt drink, and his job is lame and his bad taste in music. She went on to say that she could never be with someone who wasnt passionate about their job etc. I mean, do people have to be perfectly aligned? And so we ALL have to have dream jobs that we love? LOL. No wonder she has been on Tinder for years. I feel like older generations were more accepting of each others flaws and differences. My parents couldn’t be more different but they are still in love over 40 years later! Personally, i dont give a crap if you drink ( i dont) or what your job is. I just want to find a good person who is kind and not pretentious. The petty little details dont matter. Its the big picture.

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Joe Nemo1

Nov 16, 2022 at 12:56pm

Oh sure, will only date those who are "not pretentious". This is the sort of soft bigotry people of pretension have faced for centuries - we were born this way, it's not a choice!

Sometimes I despair of this world, but then I sip an expensive single-malt ( splash of water, no ice - ice blunts the flavour profile ) and I calm right down.....

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Nov 16, 2022 at 5:24pm

... is important to remember that for almost all of history pairing up had to do with hooking up and then having a baby and needing to get married. Now that there's birth control and prophylactics and things like that the way humans operate is fundamentally changed so instead of going well he was good enough to hook up with now I guess we're stuck together, women engage in a process that has no evolutionary basis. Decisions are made not on the basis of some sort of biological attraction but on the basis of other factors that are not biological such as jobs and so on and so forth. Whether this is good or bad it's the reality now.

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Bingo

Nov 17, 2022 at 7:20am

I agree that people now have this highly unrealistic expectation of what their “dream” person needs to be. The idea that one should never settle for anything less than perfection leads to being perpetually disappointed. The proliferation of online dating sites means an endless supply of new possibilities in partners, so we now have what we assume to be endless choices too. But young people aren’t understanding that everyone has to settle in some ways unless you don’t mind being single forever, and you can’t expect another person to fulfill every one of your needs or desires. The same goes for jobs. It’s a rare person who can truthfully say that they are passionate about their job and it’s just perfect for them. The reality is that most of us are doing jobs that are just kind of okay because it pays the bills for now. Expecting a job to be perfect or saying that you won’t do anything you’re not passionate about is fine if you’re independently wealthy, but most people don’t have that option.

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Kipawa

Nov 17, 2022 at 9:19am

Perfectly said.

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Anonymous

Nov 18, 2022 at 6:34pm

I am 67 years old and with somewhat poor health I do not have too much longer to go on this planet.

You are the generation that is going to end up eating crickets instead of hamburgers.

Beam me up, Scotty.

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