if you ponder upon your own social needs.

Apparently not you !
Bahah Baha bahaha
Had to make my post long enough Baha !

Well I'm married so

That's none of your business.

But then, I could give the same answer for the past ~1768 weeks as well.

Having sex with the wrong person has always had this semi-mysterious off-putting quality to it, and the repelling part has only increased extremely for me in the last ~7 years or so.

If it isn't utter electric resonance in all the right ways down to our very core; if it isn't melting into an ocean of love, if it's not effortless tele-empathic mergence, understanding and compatibility, then I... don't seem to want anything physically sexual, even if I find a person very attractive otherwise.

That might be perceived as unrealistic by some, but that's the relational "it" factor that I can't live without. I also know that people with that kind and degree of chemistry exist - they're just very rare.

It doesn't help that I've been in an absolutely terrible state for over a decade at this point due to cruel, forced circumstances outside of my control, but ... change is a constant, as they say. Even if it's excruciatingly slow.

~ Cocoon person