The common denominator is me
posted January 22nd, 2023 at 3:01 PM
I’m an attractive person but I get rejected very often, by people I meet on online dating apps. I’ve realized that in all these instances that the common denominator is me. I’m a deeply flawed person and my dates see right through me. There is a lot that is wrong with me as a person, so no one wants to love me regardless of my appearance. I guess I have to accept the fact that I will keep getting rejected, be love starved alone and sexless forever, because I don’t really change. I’m the person I am and people evidently don’t like the real me. I feel very litle worth in the dating marketplace. The problem is obviously me. Sigh.
Although I will say, dating apps have normalized a harsh and brutal cold culture of rejection. The paradox of choice… so many options… the grass is always going to be greener with the next person right? It’s all too easy for decent humans to reject other decent humans in the search for the elite perfect mate.
13 Comments
Post a CommentDating Apps
Jan 23, 2023 at 2:35pm
I think you just need to stop pretending. Just be honest with what you want. They'll either be on board with it or not.
Psssst
Jan 23, 2023 at 2:41pm
You first and only problem is quite obvious!
It's called Dating Apps there all f * cking ridiculous.
Try Face To Face meeting people. Apparently Real Life meeting people it's all the new rage now.
I know it's scary but what have you got to lose ?
poor poor
Jan 23, 2023 at 5:49pm
pitiful me
It’s me! Hi!
Jan 23, 2023 at 7:04pm
This reads like the Taylor Swift remix of that confessor who always posts complaints about other people.
I’m suspicious
Jan 23, 2023 at 9:23pm
Somehow this reads like someone pretending to be the person they’re writing about. It just doesn’t sound authentic to me.
It’s tough
Jan 24, 2023 at 8:05am
But keep at it and aim to enjoy life outside of dating. Life is full of rejection: finding decent jobs, a place to live, trying to enter a school you want. Keep at it, don’t give up.
Dr.Real
Jan 24, 2023 at 2:06pm
I'm sorry if I rejected you, but look at how you act? Like little tiny children having a temper tantrum. Maybe learn to communicate like an adult before you start turning every woman who will blindly agree with your delusions against me. Stay blessed .. Aha
@ I'm suspicious
Jan 24, 2023 at 2:49pm
Thought the same. It would also mean this person also has a profile on the dating app they're using to stalk this person. They probably don't actually know if the person uses the dating app, or if they've forgotten about it, or even why they made it in the first place. They've likely built their own storyline around this person that doesn't come close to matching their actual life.
@I'm suspicious
Jan 25, 2023 at 6:39am
I think a lot of these dig-type confessions seem written by the same experienced abuser who knows they can get away with it. Op, or whoever's identity is being appropriated, is probably a great person, and the writer wants them to feel bad about themselves to discourage others dating them or so they themselves become closed off.
Kudos
Jan 25, 2023 at 1:24pm
To both the mods and the "I'm suspicious" commenters.
These types of posts, intended to intimidate, mock, or otherwise erode character without consequence, have been an issue on Confessions for a long time.
The previous Straight staff would not have posted any comments with observations or reflections pointing this out.
I am glad people are getting wise.
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