Not a backup plan anymore

Some people never want to a relationship to end in such a way as there’s no possibility of ever going back. They’ll do something to make it possible to come back, like leave personal belongings that they have to retrieve, etc. They like to make sure they always have a way in with you, just in case they need to use you as their backup plan. So when they come back weeks, months, or even years later, they’ll just be feeling you out to see if you’re game. It usually happens when their other relationship has ended or is about to. They just hate being alone, so they usually have a few backups they keep on hand to make sure they’ve always got somewhere to go. I didn’t want to accept that the person I loved was like that, but the evidence was overwhelming and finally I had to accept the reality. But I’m not opening the door for them anymore. It’s time to put my best interests first.


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Jan 30, 2023 at 8:01pm

I heard an expression once, after an American couple breaks up, they become enemies, the English they remain friends, and the Japanese, it's like it never happened. Where are do Canadians fit into the expression?

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You're right on

Jan 30, 2023 at 10:13pm

I can relate to this. Hopefully if they had other backups they moved on and closed that door like you're doing. That way if they do try coming back to you the well deserved disappointment they'll get from you will feel far greater. For far too long you carried their insecurities while that loveless soulless piece of excrement gorged themselves on the power trip and ego boost of knowing you were pining and suffering for them from afar. May they experience every suffering they caused you 10 fold, and may you get everything back that you lost a hundred fold.

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Eat the shit left

Jan 30, 2023 at 10:55pm


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Jan 31, 2023 at 8:00pm

Ya eat the shit left !
I concur

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