posted January 14th, 2023 at 11:26 PM
I am in love with a woman. She is amazing. She doesn't have any interest in me at all. She knows I have told her that I live her. It doesn't phase her at all. When she sees me she gets a look on her face that screams; "oh shit, not this loser". She looks stressed, which gives me pain. I love her, the last thing I want is for just seeing me to cause her grief. I think of her always. I had an opportunity today with a sexy and very attractive woman today and It just made me want the woman I love even more. I seem to attract only very beautiful women... But not her. I wish she would give me a chance to show her I'm not a player or whatever she thinks I am. I am not. I am in love. With her, only her, I can help that. I leave her alone, what choice do I have? I want to spend every second of the rest of my life with her. But it's not to be. This is no junior infatuation, or lust or anything superficial, I have never been so taken with anyone. Life can really suck. Mine sucks now and for the last four years, ever since I laid eyes in her. It hurts.
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Jan 18, 2023 at 2:40pm
Sorry brother, but you are infatuated and partly due to your own ego by the looks of it. I know. I recognize some of the symptoms because I once had them myself decades ago back when women found me to look quite dashing in my uniform.
Think about it. You laid eyes on her 4 years ago and she acts like you're some kind loser, and it's made you feel awkward and loserish in front of her. She doesn't want to give you a chance in getting to actually know her or give herself a chance to actually get to know you. She could very well be attracted to you on some level but instead of dealing with some insecurities she has about herself she finds it easier to try to project those insecurities on to you.
You want her to stop acting like you're a loser? You need to switch your focus off of her and put your focus right where it belongs which is on yourself. Stop giving her your power, and stop giving a damn what she may or may not actually think of you.
These other women you speak of that display their attraction towards you, they can see and even acknowledge your qualities at first sight. They don't treat you as unworthy because these are insightful women of honest integrity. Don't sell yourself short for anyone. Especially someone that doesn't acknowledge your worth.
Here's a warning. She knows you've been attracted to her for years and that has had an effect on her own ego whether she realizes it or not. The moment you switch your focus off of her it's very possible she'll become upset at this and then switch her focus on you. She'll try to sucker you back in in order to play you and just for the sole purpose of carrying out her revenge by crushing you. Don't fall for these antics. Instead of the last 4 years of your life sucking, you could turn out like me, and have the rest of your life suck decades to come. I never had anyone to tell me these things when I was young. If I did I could have avoided so much grief.
Jan 18, 2023 at 7:33pm
Disgusting obsession and infatuation. Move on and leave her alone.
Chop and change.
Jan 19, 2023 at 1:24am
OK, move on now because any more time spent of this is time you're flushing town the toilet. Stop being an ass.
why would you want to be
Jan 19, 2023 at 2:59am
With someone who doesn't love you?
Jan 20, 2023 at 6:47am
It's important to allow people their space and not harass them, obviously, but, being infatuated with someone without harming them is 'disgusting' and makes one a 'creep'? You've never been very attracted to someone for longs periods before without ending up telling them?
All these vicious judgments that get shadow projected onto people for things like being deeply attracted to someone and thinking about them often (and for other harmless things) ... are one of the multiple reasons I find a lot of humankind so depressing, and especially try to avoid interacting with the kind of person who just hurls around harsh judgments towards people they have never met and don't actually know well. Yikes.
The range of 'acceptable behavior' has become so incredibly narrow that I'm sure there would be literal, real-life "thought police" if most humans realized multisense telepathy was real and could reliably access it. Even things like friendly eye contact seem to often be almost recoiled at, as if it was some form of assault or something. How alienating.
@why would you want to be
Agreed, the obvious absence of mutual reciprocation basically makes relationship not worth pursuing.
Jan 20, 2023 at 3:33pm
Well said. Agreed that we need to be less judgmental when it comes to matters of attraction, love, and attachment.
You could always Stalk her
Jan 20, 2023 at 10:16pm
Sorry, I had too. Joking. Dont do that.
Jan 21, 2023 at 11:05pm
It’s your post that I find far creepier than what the Op wrote. It seems like you’re assuming that just because a woman isn’t interested, somehow it’s because the guy isn’t doing the right things, so if he just changes what he d, she’ll fall for him. This is a prevalent misconception among too many men! Women are not programable machines that you just have to know how to operate. They are complex human beings who have their own unique likes and dislikes. The woman who is the object of the Op’s obsession just isn’t into him! Why is that so hard for guys to comprehend??
Jan 22, 2023 at 8:10pm
Wow. That’s one gigantic assumption you’ve made about someone you know nothing about! Your comment is far creepier than what the Op said. You saying that the reason this woman didn’t want to be with the Op is because of her own insecurities is ridiculous. Why do so many guys think this way? The massive egos of far too many of you just turn so many women right off. Like you can’t conceive of the concept that a woman just isn’t into you. You have to make it into some “issue” she’s got that’s preventing her from appreciating how amazing you are. Get over yourself! The woman is NOT INTERESTED. That’s it. She’s got her own likes, just like you guys do. Are you into every woman simply because she’s into you? What if you just don’t think she’s attractive, or she’s just not your type? Does that mean you’re insecure or have some mental problems? No. It just means you’re not into her. It works both ways, and you men need to get that through your heads!
@ 2 Anon responses
Jan 24, 2023 at 3:09pm
Both of you are taking anon's assessment and advice to the OP like a personal offense. Regardless of how anon hit close to home for you, OP only has to follow anon's advice to see if anon's assessment is indeed a valid one.
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