Here here smashing realization.
Good show govner !

and when one door closes, another door always opens. Just keep moving forward and when the voids throw negative at you; don't resist force with force, but turn to the side, deflect and keep moving forward. That's a basic teaching of Taoism.

When it's too late any effort no matter how great or small is pointless and completely irrelevant regardless whether they've changed or not. The only reasons they'd be coming back to you now is because they're in search of a priest to absolve their atrocious behavior or a scapegoat to excuse their atrocious behavior. There's someone better waiting for you to move on from them. Someone like me. :)

Almost retribution funny for all your underhanded behavior.
When you know people are monitoring your every move and you are purposely saying things you really want to say to someone's face but you can't so you send messages about how your really feeling about the situation to someone else and you know it's being seen by the watchers and they can't say a damn thing about it because it would blow their little pathetic cover.
Which by the way is so transparent to begin with and let me tell you watching people rotten people stew can be so rewarding !
But alas I grow tired of it all and it's time to go.

Maybe they are hesitant to make any effort because every time they made one, you pretended to be nice and crushed them once you lured them in and gained their trust... over and over again. And you never, ever made the first move ever, either, or apologized for the times you jerked them around... but I'll bet you think you're a blameless angel who wonders why they won't ever call again or walk up to you first. They don't need to give you ammo to pin something nasty on them, (saying you never approached them and don't know why they're coming back to you), which they now expect you to do thanks to your track record of faking being interested.

welcome to the club. I've been waiting a dozen years for her to say she feels the same. Her marrying someone else, having a kid and never contacting me again shoulda been a sign (or two or three) right? But I still find myself waiting.

…are the comments assuming that I’m writing about them, or that they know me at all. You’re both completely off base and I have no clue what you’re talking about. Any “crushing” that was done was certainly not by me, and as for the other comment, holy s*** dude, get help.

They are a very powerful point made because I never got a straight answer or a real glance just sneers from my supposed lover for coming secertly to her work all though all her co-workers were in the loop on us but I sure wasn't so gives I do not get it and why did this woman stalk me?

When you write like your our stories, expect our responses.

Here's a twist: this could've been written by me. It could've been written by them. In fact, this could be the shared sentiment of two people who each blame the other for the same thing. The sentiments are vague enough yet common enough, a sad testament on relationships here.

Just like sitcoms, drama and misunderstandings are made much worse because nobody wants to sit down, clear the air, be honest and be vulnerable. Instead: pride, ego, image, status... all the BS that gets in the way of happiness.

TV is supposed to be entertainment, not tutorials. We laugh at them because they're tension made worse by people doing the wrong thing. And what do we possibly have? A confession fitting both sides who think the other person is at fault, and nobody willing to break a stalemate, wondering how things fell apart when they didn't need to be like this.

I mean, it might not be, but it could, and lack of courage and respectful candor are the main reasons drama occurs, all learned from your entertainment.