posted January 19th, 2023 at 12:58 AM
Being drunk and lonely is not a good combination. Never imagined I'd ever wind up so lonely.
posted January 19th, 2023 at 12:58 AM
Dan offers some advice on where she might find it.
You and your sister were at the next table, eating. I asked if you were eating chicken or squid....
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Jan 19, 2023 at 8:06pm
But you're never alone.
Jan 19, 2023 at 10:05pm
Drunks are why I don't drink.
Maybe you're at the crossroads. Drink n' die. Quit n' live.
I hear you
Jan 19, 2023 at 10:47pm
Not so long ago I was married to a lovely man and we had lots of friends. Now I'm a widow, our friends have left me, my dad and dad-in-law have died, as has a cool uncle and several acquaintances. I also caught covid and became disabled. I never thought I'd end up like this. From young and active and happy with a career to 40 and just broken down. It happened in short order. I don't drink, but yeah, the loneliness is really quite shocking.
Jan 20, 2023 at 6:17am
Me neither :/ minus the drunk part on my end. Vancouver is an amazingly lonely place in terms of its social atmosphere. I want to move to a place that isn't this way so badly, but don't currently have the funds to do so
I'm kind of in the same lonely boat
Jan 20, 2023 at 3:22pm
And if this was the type of net format where people could exchange info to visit in person I'd love to meet you for a cuppa tea/coffee. But it isn't and what I do for myself is go for daily walks and meet new friends by chatting with strangers. Amazingly I've been meeting some wonderful new friends.
Jan 21, 2023 at 2:04pm
Drinking only takes away the loneliness for a brief moment then the hangover arrives and you feel like death warmed over.
Get a pet far better off the SPCA has so many to choose from now that " COVID" has past it seems all the bored people don't to want those cute little critters they purchased from expensive breeders anymore.
Make out like a bandit and save a pet all at the same time.
Wouldn't that be rewarding ?
Jan 21, 2023 at 3:01pm
I understand how you feel; this is a cold city.On New Years Day,I went for a walk and as people passed me by,I wished them a happy new year and they looked at me like I was from another planet.One person even scowled at me.The other day I was waiting for the bus and just said casually to someone what a beautiful day it was; of course they had ear buds in and didn't hear me.I've traveled all over the world and have never experienced such unfriendliness as I have in this city. What's strange is that so many people complain about feeling lonely yet they can't even return a smile from time to time. It all makes me just want to become a recluse and avoid social situations all together. I used to love this city but something has shifted and I'm making a plan to leave. I enjoy my own company but the loneliness is real and it starts to wear you down and yes,I've tried joining group activities but that didn't work as people who join bring their own friends and don't seem interested in making new ones.I'm not going to get into the whole east coast versus west coast but while recently visiting Toronto, I noticed how much more friendlier and open people were there and it felt good to just sit at a bar and have a friendly chat with a stranger.As George Costanza once stated" We live in a society you know".
Sober up then.
Jan 21, 2023 at 8:09pm
Being drunk and with someone can be worse for you and for them.
“No matter how isolated you are and how lonely you feel
Jan 23, 2023 at 12:12pm
if you do your work truly and conscientiously, unknown friends will come and seek you.” - Carl Jung
Feb 2, 2023 at 1:43pm
I think you’re the first person I’ve ever heard refer to Toronto as “friendly “. I love Toronto( born and raised in Vancouver) but not for it’s overly friendly attitude. It just has a characteristic of its own.
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