I understand now

I didn’t realize that I was hurting my children because of my own childhood. I didn’t realize that my own hyper independence was a result of never having an adult to rely on or to give me comfort when I was a child. So I raised my kids to also be very independent, but didn’t realize the dark side of that until now. I loved them fiercely and tried my best to show them that, but because I had problems with being vulnerable, I often appeared “tough” and unapproachable. It’s so great that now we have access to so much information that helps us understand how these things are related. I wish I’d known this when they were young, before I made my kids feel emotionally neglected.

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Way to go!

Feb 1, 2023 at 5:51pm

I think it's awesome that you're self-reflecting in these ways. I recognize a lot of the qualities you describe in myself and in my parents.

These are intergenerational patterns that don't start with us and aren't our fault. But as you mention, we're now living in a time where we have access to the knowledge and insight to stop these patterns and move in new, emotionally-evolved directions. I'd say that's pretty cool.

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You're a woman correct?

Feb 1, 2023 at 6:34pm

Yes, I'm correct.

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@You're a woman correct?

Feb 6, 2023 at 10:43am

And?

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