posted March 23rd, 2023 at 3:15 AM
It’s not my imagination. I understand that now. Somehow he always manages to manipulate situations so that he gets his own way, time after time. We can make a plan to do something I suggest, but somehow it usually winds up being what he wanted to do instead. If you point it out to him he acts all confused and innocent and hurt that you’d suggest such a thing. He gaslights constantly so that you find yourself wondering if you’re just being too suspicious. But it’s happened so often that I no longer doubt my own perception anymore. He’s a manipulator, pure and simple.
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Mar 23, 2023 at 2:35pm
I lived with a gas lighter for four years - it was so destructive and had me thinking I was crazy, doubting myself and my perceptions. I found it quite damaging.
Mar 24, 2023 at 10:04am
Now your getting it !
Why are you still with this person ?
Trusting the wrong person leads to a weak mind .
Always trust your gut
Mar 24, 2023 at 12:23pm
It starts with something like that but gaslighting and manipulation is very dangerous and gets worse. The boundary manipulation grows as he progressively tests them to see what he can get away with. They know how to make you doubt yourself and make their victims feel and look crazy. I learned more than I cared to about sociopathic and psychopathic narcissistic disorders the last 5 years, how they project their traits, gaslight, isolate their victims, and get others to do their abuse by proxy, collectively disempowering their target. If it gets bad enough you try complaining about men like him, you'll be shocked & disgusted to find out how many abusers/sympathizers intervene to defend them. It's an abuser-centred world that fails the real victims every time. Leave while you're aware and can before it gets worse. Nobody cares when it comes down to it and takes their side, they have a way. Let him continue manipulating and getting away with it, without you there.
Mar 25, 2023 at 8:10am
It’s amazing how they do this! I wish I had a video of my conversations with this guy so that I could analyze how he manipulated me and others. Manipulators must be so smart. Too bad they don’t use it for good.
They have low
Apr 3, 2023 at 2:28am
Self Esteem and fear loneliness that's why they're fucked up and possessive about anyone they hang with.
People like that are easy to spot and give themselves away easily.
It's their predictability that shows
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