Dating takes effort… for some of us

I’m getting pretty tired of chasing after gorgeous humans on dating apps. I’m browsing through dating apps bios when I stumble on a beautiful human with a bio that reads like this (with my translations included): “Work a lot - don’t text back fast - nothing personal” Translation: Good luck, the odds are we’ll probably never meet, I’m too busy to meet, let alone send messages… why am I even on this dating app? I shouldn’t even be on here. I’m just going to waste your time and get your hopes up. “Also not super chatty” Translation: I’m gorgeous… therefore I put in zero effort into this. Chase after me. YOU need to do all the work and say all the perfect things to hook me into conversation. Impress me somehow so I will maybe go on a date with you. Good luck! “Bad texter” Translation: I’ll probably end up wasting your time and energy and you’ll eventually get exhausted of my lack of responses to texts. Odds are, I’ll probably just not respond and end up ghosting you. I say we just leave all the gorgeous zero effort people behind and stop pursuing them… it’s such an entitlement. Dating takes effort, energy and mutual genuine interest. Don’t even bother signing up for apps if you KNOW you’re a bad texter with no time space or energy.

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These women

May 10, 2023 at 1:11pm

Dont want to date they just want attention. I know it’s immature AF. Typical of child brain vancouver women.

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Anonymous

May 10, 2023 at 3:00pm

There's a study that concluded beautiful people are boring, look it up.

Struggle builds character. Those that were able to coast through life due to attractiveness, money, familial connections (or all three) end up being less relatable and capable at the end of the day compared to those who had to truly make their own opportunities and build the resilience it takes to make it in life. That’s why it’s good to look at challenges with an appreciation for the strengths/new perspectives they bring.

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Yes siree

May 10, 2023 at 4:35pm

A new boss also named Karen

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Woman

May 10, 2023 at 4:52pm

Personally, I don’t like to message/email/text back and forth. I like to meet face to face right away. But the guy wants to get to know each other by typing , so I get bored .In other words, I’m not suitable for online dating. A lot quicker to meet people when I go out. And more real, I think.

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Anonymous

May 11, 2023 at 5:05pm

Sounds like you are trying to encounter people far above your looks/interest quotient.

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Here’s a thought

May 11, 2023 at 7:10pm

Maybe instead of only focusing on the gorgeous people, you start looking at the ones who aren’t so gorgeous? Maybe they have to work a little harder. That’s not to say that all gorgeous people are jerks or boring, but that there are so many people in the world and only focusing on the same ones that everyone else is also focusing on means you’re narrowing the chances of success significantly.

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@these women

May 12, 2023 at 10:42am

I agree with not dating women that just wants the attention. I agree that you call it “ child brain “. But I don’t agree with you saying “ these child brain Vancouver women”.
Not all Vancouver women are like that.
Me, I’m a woman. I only like to be asked out by a guy that I’m attracted to. Guys that I’m not attracted to, I don’t encourage them. Do you know it’s not easy to say no to a guy when they ask you out politely? This is why some of us just ignore the text, call, hoping they would take the
hint.
Some of us don’t want these frivolous attention. Not just any guys.
Yes, I know there are some women that likes just any attention they can get. I think they have issues.
But you can not say all women are like that in Vancouver.
It’s like I think there are good men in Vancouver. Not all of them dressed sloppy ( I read it last week on here ), not all men are creeps, and not all Vancouver men are too passive.
Let’s be fair!

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Wow ego lady say when you see you in the mirror ?

May 14, 2023 at 12:33pm

Are there like two of you. The over bloated ego you in front and the person I'd much rather get to know somewhere in the back ground!

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@these women

May 15, 2023 at 7:08pm

"This is why some of us just ignore the text, call, hoping they would take the hint."

Do you know how many times I've been ghosted, ignored, been rude to, had the eye roll from women...only to have them days/weeks/months/years later tell me how awesome they thought I was and wondering why I "gave up too easily"?
So much so that I gave up years ago, that's how many.

Play stupid games, get stupid prizes

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