When I was a young man, I waited for women to make the first move. Eventually, one would. I would do whatever they wanted, as far as having a relationship, and even the specifics of the sexual itinerary. I was sometimes asked to do very dirty things, way beyond oral sex. I didn’t think it had an option to say, “no”. In my 40’s, I learned that I could initiate contact with a woman, and I did. But sometimes, I missed the liberating feeling of being selected by a woman, and just doing what I was told.