Seriously though it’s cool that tHEy didn’t get to control you. Sorry that you feel the need to hide gender.

Sometimes that's just the way it is. Not everyone is going to let you pull them down with you.

Is usually faster anyways.

Happy trails to you until we meet again.

There are many ways a person issues ultimatums and some of them aren’t blatant. A person who can’t ever admit to being wrong, who never apologizes, who doesn’t understand the concept of sharing, might just as well say that. Either way there’s no genuine discussion or agreement because if you don’t do things exactly the way they want you to, they leave. Not worth it in any way.

Why are pronouns so important to you (you keep making comments) ? People can do crappy things to other people regardless of their gender.