It’s not easy to come by. People are quick to judge before they know what created the situation that someone is presently living with. I’m a person with a lot of history. I’ve had nothing, I’ve had lots, I’ve lost it all and earned it back again. I’ve had love and I’ve lost love. I’ve experienced a lot of abuse from men, both physical and mental / emotional. So don’t judge me so quickly. You think I seem harsh but the person I’m speaking to has been far harsher. That person who feigns love and affection when all they really want is to suck every last ounce of life out of you until the person they met no longer exists. Until you’ve experienced that, please be quiet.