Hi all—any other HSP’s or intuitive empaths out there? I’m struggling to come terms with all of this and frankly I don’t know where to turn. INFJ


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Many people find keeping a dream journal helps

Sep 29, 2023 at 10:39am

There's so much interdimensional disconnect in so many of us that upon waking up in the morning, we often don't remember the insights of our dreams. I got me a dollar-store school note book and make it part of my sun rise to do my best to promptly write the date and content of my dreams. It has helped me take a more coherent look at myself and 'the Great Beyond.' Whatever we do, it is of benefit to also keep a sense of humour. An Indigenous teaching is: "If you ain't laughing, you are dying." That's not to say we laugh at tragedy. We do not. But it is to say "keep a cheerful heart."

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Sep 29, 2023 at 11:44am

There are groups for HSPeople on Meetup.com (it’s free)

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the best i can do

Sep 29, 2023 at 1:03pm

is recommend limiting (or entirely removing) time spent with poisonous, draining or otherwise non-resonant people, if at all possible -- and probably also meeting new people who are more energizing and gentler on your sensitivity, energy field, and mental-emotional states (say at groups with a shared activity that you happen to like a lot).

Also, spending a lot of time around animals and out in nature helps, in my experience. They don't even have to be your pet, you can go to parks or forests and feed squirrels and crows peanuts and stuff. You could try playing with or even telepathically communicating with those animals, if that's your thing :)

But yeah. Hypersensitivity / being a very porous/naturally osmotically receptive empath and overly harsh, abrasive, toxic people definitely don't mix. In a lot of cases even people who don't resonate very much don't mix. I realize it's easier said than done to just change the people one spends time with in a lot of cases, but it's often worth the effort.

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Infp here...

Sep 29, 2023 at 1:07pm

I am a fellow HSP and have done a test that says I'm an INFP. I think it's hard being uber sensitive but I think it can also a blessing. We're more attuned to life on a deeper level, more aware of our environment and people. But it's very emotionally draining too. Most people don't understand our needs and way we operate but that's ok. Just be you and be glad you're different. The world needs more of us in my opinion! I spend a lot of time alone (though I wish I had more meaningful friendships or didn't suck at them) , have no interest in what most of my peers talk about but I have found a few friends who I can kind of connect with. I love music, art, poetry, books, swimming, being outside, ideas; I work in childcare and have told my coworkers about myself and they understand me better. I also have to negotiate situations (sometimes after the fact) when I realize certain places, people, and environments stress me out. Don't worry... there are others out there...we may be found at a bookstore near you!

PS there are resources online if you google those terms. It's helped me understand myself better and may do the same for you.

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Sep 30, 2023 at 9:11am

Start by reading up on what happened in your childhood that made you so acutely aware of everything going on around you. Your naturally sensitive nature was very likely also heavily affected by unstable and chaotic environments that meant that you had to be on guard a lot. You developed a keen awareness of other people’s emotions because it was important to know what might be coming next. Accepting yourself as not being somehow broken is the best way to become comfortable in your own body. We’re all different and people like us are important just as those who aren’t like us are. Learn what makes you uncomfortable and where you feel the best. Try not to be in jobs that place you in highly stressful situations all the time, and prioritize your own peace and wellbeing. Listen to your instincts about people and situations because you’re usually right. In retrospect I’ve realized that the worst things that happened to me could have been avoided if I’d trusted my own instincts and removed myself from the situation.

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Oct 1, 2023 at 6:47am

Hi-hello! I don't know how or if you're going to see this. I'm 31 and have been exTREMEly sensitive all my life.

I would discourage you away from the myers-briggs thing since it wasn't created by professionals, and it all-around ignores the sheer vastness of how varied personalities can be. It also does not consider personality disorders, and which result you get depends your mood.

M-B is something you have found that has helped you realize what you are. I don't want to bog down on something important to you. You are clearly looking for information and a connection, but you can find it in places that do not exclude people and that don't dumb down and box in the grey areas and fluidity of people.

Some things you can do to manage your sensitivity (because Recovery is not about deleting these parts of you, it's about management. There is no delete button):

-Listen to your sensitivity. Listen to what it is telling you. If it's saying to look away, block out the information, don't listen, don't read it, then do that. Weigh the need to know the information; do you REALLY need to know this? I'm vegan without needing to watch undercover videos at slaughterhouses. It's not necessary for me to watch Blackfish to know Seaworld is demented. I don't need to watch true crime to satiate my fascination with psychology.

-Pay less attention to the news. Check in for elections, where to cast your votes, local events, and other pertinent things that more directly affect your life, but as far as the crime report or daily goings-on of political f*ckery, no, you don't need that. You can't keep up with it, no one can. The news and social media WILL give you more anxiety.

-Stay away from gore in media. Look away when it comes on the screen/page. Be open to spoiling it for yourself so you're ready.
Skim the paragraph of the book or fanfic if you're getting a sense it will be graphic and awful. If not, then read it in full. Pay attention to trigger warnings, and do NOT be afraid to ask for them. Viewer discretion warnings have been around forever, they're not new.

-Stand up for yourself. When someone tells you "be quiet" or "move on", point out you'd be restraining your feelings to make THEM more comfortable. Slow, deep breaths, and think before you speak, always. In through your nose, out through your mouth.

Sensitivity is valuable, everywhere.

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INFP here

Oct 2, 2023 at 9:24am

It's a blessing. Better to be hypersensitive than oblivious.

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Another INFP/HSP

Oct 5, 2023 at 6:53pm

And frequent commenter here. Wow, this post has attracted some good, likeminded people and helpful comments. Wish we could start a group chat or meet up :)

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Yes, and same [J]

Oct 10, 2023 at 1:36pm

I'm not sure whether sensitivity results from traumatic upbringing or just gets amplified by it, but I'm right there with you. No idea what to do about it. On a waiting list for more-than-talk forms of therapy, but even then it feels like too little too late, like getting to be who we could have been just isn't in the cards for us. Instead we have to spend our lives covering our ears to shut out the noise, helping other people feel the safety and care we don't know how to ask for or to give ourselves.

Also thanks to the other kind and informative replies.

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